I have some close friends who have huge age differences, and while I don't get it, I know it can work. But it *still* creeps me out.

My guess is that the guys who do this repeatedly--and I don't think it was spawned by 'confused' or anyone else polite enough to post--don't read the forums, and yes, they do it over and over. I have data myself, and also from when I was a mod. The most amazing thing is the reaction bellylover02 reported, which is totally common, and that is 'You don't want me? You bi$%ch, what the f$%^ is wrong with you?' and so on.

If you're on the site for long enough, and you answer clearly enough, it slows down to a mere trickle.

However, it would be helpful if everyone who experienced such things reported them. I know Hiccupx wants to encourage everyone to resolve differences among ourselves, but I think guys who act like this need to be reported and warned, or eventually banned if they don't stop. The procedure for filing a complaint is here:
fantasyfeeder.com/cms/faq.php
Except don't send it to me, cuz I'm no longer a mod. I'll ask H to change it to the appropriate person.

I think that a lot of what AreYou says is true--attraction is a major issue in how good your experience will be. However, I do think that there are others. People have different sexual styles, and they don't always match up. People can be fun and playful, or seductive and sensual, or rough, or dark, or romantic... There are so many different sexual personalities.

And then there's skill. While most people want to disavow this issue, there is a difference between more and less experienced lovers. Not everyone who has had many partners has learned from the experiences, of course, but if people are paying attention, they're bound to learn something. And that can really matter, especially for someone who's nervous or having difficulties for other reasons.

I disagree entirely. Ruby begins to be on the right train, but I would go one step further. Either you charge everyone by the pound, both people and baggage, or you take responsibility for seating people in all our diversity. It wouldn't cost airlines that much to reserve one or two rows for larger passengers, and just make the seats in those rows more ample. And I would guess I speak for a lot of fatties when I say I would welcome such seats.

Either a company caters to its clientele, or it doesn't. We used to think such practices were outrageous, and we used to think it was a company's job to service its clients. It's a sad day when we volunteer to be treated badly AND think it makes sense.

And fwiw, United is the 8th or 9th airline to put such a policy in place. I wish someone would push them on size discrimination, which is at least against the law in a few places.