Depends on who you ask, but I generally consider it a very bad thing if *truly* forced (no safe word, didn't actually agree to it).

I think it might be a bit of a power or dom/sub thing, so it's not gonna appeal to everyone, probably not even most. As I understand it, giving up control over your food intake and surrendering it to someone else. But typically if anything like this actually occurs, there's some safe word in case it goes too far somehow and it's been somehow agreed to beforehand.

I hope that makes sense.

I also find it hard to believe every man or even most of them who sent you a message want to do this to you. I don't particularly find this appealing. Then again, I also don't recall sending a message to a woman here unsolicited, other than that one time many years ago I told some moderator here about some spam (this was before the message limits became punitive).

This, is something I've wondered about for awhile. I've also lurked here for over 12 years, often too nervous to reach out. Speaking to very few individuals if I ever do.

What I like, physically is if you assume average height (in the US that's between about 5'3" to 5'7" for women), I like about 200-250ish lbs, give or take some. (I'll admit, some even at 300ish look great.)

At the same time, I don't care for immobility, mental laziness, or ultimate physical laziness. The plump teacher, the large accountant, the soft manager, that's what I really like. Not running or extreme physical exertion (I wish she remains mobile enough to help me around the house) but I still want her in a career type job. That she works hard, even if not physically.

Alas, I don't feel comfortable with a serious relationship as of this writing, BBW or not. I still have a lot I feel I must do first before that is possible.

Though if I do end up with a smaller woman, I will no doubt love her (even if I do secretly wish she will have a larger helping or indulge her sweet tooth a bit more, to give me more to love).

I had to get a bit drunk to post this, by drinking more after the bar. I hope I don't regret posting this later.

Also, not everything is bigger in Texas, but some things are just larger everywhere.

Used to use mIRC. On hosted WeeChat these days. Hosted meaning it runs on a server I rent and I SSH into,, but you don't have to run it on a server.

It's quite secure; any will support TLS v1.2 connections (latest in wide use as of this writing).

I would probably recommend HexChat (and possibly a thick skin) for anyone new; it's a good balance between noob friendly, somewhat advanced, and supports recent features.

I like IRC for chat in general.

Though I kind of doubt most folks on here use it. And most IRC users will likely deny their existence on this (or similar) sites except perhaps via PM (not publicly in channel).

My screen name is self explanatory.

In retrospect I should have used proper spelling, but I think it's still clear.

I can't remember exactly, it's been awhile. When I was 15 or so, I first discovered Dimensions and FatNats (now defunct). I can't remember how exactly I found this site, but I'm glad I did.

Before that, I knew I liked larger women but I didn't tell anyone. I thought I was alone in how I felt.

I still haven't told anyone in real life.

Let me start off this post with a disclaimer: I'm hardly what you'd consider fat. In fact, last I check my BMI score is 17.5, and I'm a man too. I've never weighed over 120 lbs in my life.

But, I can think of a couple things. One is winters. I would think that larger people can stand winter better. Of course, this works against them when summer rolls around. I always love summer, yet when winter comes I *always* hate it.

Another is sitting on hard surfaces. I would assume that they have an easier time with that. Me, I hate sitting on chairs without padding or cushions, because it's uncomfortable.

Has she ever tried pantyhose? Would that make a difference?

It's what I thought of, but what do I know? I'm a man, and a thinner one at that.