Bellyastic wrote
If I had no interest in big ladies, then why would I flirt with her in the first place?

People flirt all the time with people they are not physically interested in, I think it's just called fun.


It's disheartening and dare I say a turn off when someone is that uptight about something, at least in my view.

Turn off? Since you are 29 and a Fa, I think you should come to the realization that a young 19 year old girl and I stress young girl, probably is not going to be comfortable with her belly being touched unless prior approved by some guy she works with. Not everyone knows about this site and the other fat positive sites out there. I have just come to terms with my belly in last couple years and although I never had a problem with being fat, I always hated my belly and fantasized about cutting it off with a knife myself, so you see, I have come a long way. Why don't you, in a very gentle way, let this girl know about sites like this and that you frequent them looking for just her type.

RubyRipples wrote


THIS

Breasts are seen as "sexy", fat stomachs are not. Also, you crossed a biiig line putting your hands on her body anywhere other than say her shoulder. There are boundaries in a work environmeht. The fact that slimmer women did not react in the same way as this girl, does not mean this girl is "uptight" as you put it. I'd have shoved you away too, whatever size I was. You don't invade a person's space like that unless you've been told that you can. If I had witnessed the incident, I'd have actually seen you as the one with the issue, not her.

She IS only a teenager too, flirty or not.

Chubbylovely wrote
Unfortunately thats the case with our society

I do think though if you become closer to her and explain exactly how much you like her body and continue to show her that, she will open up.
Coming across this site has done wonders for my body confidence in knowing there are FA's out there. Until I actually meet one and I KNOW hes an FA, I will continue to be self concious when it comes to touch. Truth be told it does disgust a huge majority of men, so many of us girls cant help but react that way...

I think if you get closer and introduce her to the site she will understand you a lot better. If I meet an FA I wont immediately be comfortable with my body but Im sure I will get pretty used to being comfy real quick when I see how much I turn him on, lol.

Just dont write her off, it takes time and once shes informed I think things may turn out really well for you!

Chubbylovely wrote
There is nothing wrong with the girl, I say the same thing ANY time my belly is touched.....
Shes been raised in a society where fat is disgusting, wrong, unattractive etc and she is not going to be automatically comfortable with someone touching her belly because " They like curves".
She may not even know feederism or FA's exist! I only came across this site a few months ago and didnt know any of this existed either. I will still continue to be self concious of my fat and it being touched and if Im ever lucky enough to meet an FA I will not automatically be comfortable and ok with them touching my belly and other various fat areas. It probably wont take long for me to get comfortable if I know he is specifically an FA, but I will continue to be self concious if I dont know those facts.
There is no way you can blame the girl for reacting like that, I would of said the same thing, but in a giggly kinda way to hide my embarrassment.

Maximum wrote


This, well somewhat lol.

I find that for some larger women, the stomach can be a very sensitive area and i don't mean in that "ooh that tickles way"

For her, she may be more uncomfortable with her stomach then her boobs, hence the reason she flashed you.

Also, and this is more for everyone, i'd stay away from the stomach as a starting point unless you know the other person is into the scene or comfortable with it, for general society, the stomach still seems to be a "taboo" area.

Hopefully though you can work past this, probably apologise, and still continue with where the relationship was heading.