"Mutual Gaining" is so sexy when you are with the one you love.

My wife is not necessarily into gaining weight on purpose but she does a pretty good job gaining weight at certain times just eating the way she does. Although she is not close to your weight she has several times been right at 200 Lbs. at 5' 3" and myself actually grew nice and Fat for a while around 250 Lbs. and the love making was the best. I am not sure if she liked us both being that big but she certainly seemed liked she loved it when we were having sex.

I can only imagine you and your significant other at 400 Lbs. each rocking the bed during a romantic session.
Even at our weights our bellies would definitely get in the way during these intimate moments and the bed was definitely feeling the extra strain.

I personally would love for my wife to get to 300 Lbs. and if she wanted me that big or bigger I would certainly give her what she wants.....plus it might be hard after enjoying all the great food and the increased appetite to slow down without gaining more.

Generally how many Pounds does it take to notice that you have gained weight? 5Lbs.,10Lbs.,20Lbs. or more


What is usually the first tell sign?

After you notice a gain of 10+ Lbs. do you suddenly notice how much more you have been eating and or more calorie laiden snacks etc.?



Obviously there are a lot of variables but just interested in knowing the starting point of a gain or a new gain!

Yep, everyone is different like previously stated! But I have heard many times that BBW women who like the contrast between a muscular thinner guy and their softer/Fatter selves.

Obviously this is just on a purely physical/aesthetic level and there is more than that which women will be attracted to in their spouse, lover or male companion.

Yep, I guess this all stems from a insecurity on a particular body part to the individual. But in my case I never really have had an insecurity with my pecs other than the simple fact my wife happened to point out at that time that I had grown some softer bigger pecs.

On the flip side my wife has the most gorgeous belly and tends to gain in her belly first and more their than anywhere else. When she was younger she always had a slightly softer bigger belly and I believe she is definitely more insecure even today about her fatter belly. Which I believe to be one of her sexiest features even though she has many. I gravitate to kissing or touching her belly which she has grown to like a bit more but doesn't really want me paying ton's of attention to it.

Personally I would much rather my wife pat or jiggle my belly when she noticed I have gained a good amount of weight than jiggle my chest/boobs.

I am pretty muscular but when I was at my heaviest and my chest softer, my wife while intoxicated slightly happened to softly grab and shake my softer pecs and say "I don't quite remember all of this". I felt rather insecure and didn't realize my pecs were so much softer.

It was kind of erotic seeing that she noticed how much I have gained but at the same time I personally would have preferred her jiggling my big fat gut I gained.

On the flip side, he could be married to someone who doesn't like his body and the thought of him getting Fatter/bigger repulses them......which ultimately he will probably get Fatter/bigger as time goes on......which may be part a slight of the reason the op fell in love with him (knowing he would probably get bigger from the look's of his starting physique).

So in summary I feel this a great situation, but somehow you should tell him how you feel in the future. Who know's maybe he will relax and learn to love the extra 30, 50 maybe 100 Lbs. he ends up gaining knowing how much you will love him and desire him even more. So the ultimate win/win

Sorry, just my rant on from a different perspective.

Never really thought about it......until just now......Nope, I really would only get satisfaction from my wife liking me fattened up and her enjoying it mostly.

I think there are so many variables it is hard to pin point.

I will give you an example here....My wife when she was thinner, her lower belly would really bulge out in front of her almost as if she was 4-5 months pregnant. Over the years her weight gain has settled and made her waist and ass wider and she developed bigger love handles with less of a protruding lower belly sticking out all of a sudden.

Currently she has been gaining again and she is not only wider she is starting to get a huge lower belly protruding again as well as way more fat accumulated almost in a second big belly when sitting or with any jeans on. I happen to like the belly protruding because it makes her look fatter and it is really noticeable even when she pulls tank tops, sweaters anything over you still see a bigger fatter belly. It is especially sexy when she sits down with a sweater on and she look's pregnant but you can tell it's more of a soft protrusion.

So redistribution of weight changes based on many variables. I almost thought my wife wasn't going to have that sexy protrusion in her belly anymore and just slowly get wider......I guess it has a bit to do with how fast you are gaining and going to the belly first and then sort of settling. All I know is I love her belly protrusion so I guess she is always going to have to keep gaining and not losing to keep an every growing protruding belly.

Yep I agree with you my relationship and the sex is so much better when my wife is bigger/fatter!

Disadvantage - That's actually fits under the category in my eyes as very erotic, a belly that get's in the way as it keep's getting bigger is so erotic.

Yep this happened to me several times over the last few years.

Stocking a lot of food and sweets in the pantry in hopes that my wife would start gaining a lot of weight back again.....all of a sudden I noticed my pants not being able to fasten up with out a slight bulge hanging over the waist band.

After this I turned myself into the project and it became kind of addicting seeing how Fat I could get. My eating became out of control and I was inflating and gaining at a very fast rate. For a short while I was more turned on by my wife hopefully noticing how Fat I was getting rather than watching her gain weight. Mostly because she wasn't gaining nearly as much or as fast as I was.

So, I guess there have been short periods where this flipped but ultimately I enjoy my wife getting fatter and not myself the majority of the time. But I guess if there is a void with her getting Fat I my as well enjoy myself fattening up during those times.