Nice to see you, PiercedprincessFFA

What made you leave and what made you come back?

I think for many the idea is that a feedee is a person who knowingly and willingly wants to be given (more) food in order to gain weight, and that that person derives pleasure from that beyond the fun of eating.

I think that's a limited scope. Mine definitely wasn't willing saying "oh yes, please fatten me up." I had to use manipulation, enabling, behavior modification, bribing - everything to make her fat.

But to me, in my mind, she's my feedee because I'm the one feeding her.

The internalization of "I'm fat" is very important.

I always buy something extra besides making sure her standard snacks are available all the time. Sometimes she's in a maintance mode and doesn't want it. That's OK; we'll wait until your will is broken and you ask me if that snack is still there.

My wife has never really been into activities but between some ailments and my feeder care I've gotten her to be sedentary about 22-23 hours per day.

She wakes up and gets breakfast in bed. Later on she gets up to wash, dress. Goes to her favorite chair. There she only needs to get up to go pee; I bring her her drinks, her food, and have her trained that if she wants something else instead of getting it she'll ask me for it.

End of the day she goes back to bed.

Between her ailments and this level of inactivity walking has become an endurance sport in itself and the distances she walks have become shorter and shoter.

I truly enjoy all these things; some other perks of being a feeder

I'm tremendously proud of how she looks. Love walking into a room, bar, restaurant with her.

It's different from just FA as this is something I made.

Also very proud to have turned her; to have her had actively gain, to have set a minimum weight under which she shouldn't go, to finally having normalized in her mind that she's OK at the weight she is or that she can gain more but not go down.

I love everything about being a feeder.

I think it's tremendous fun that she actually wants to be thin but I'm growing her into a fattie. I find it beautiful to see her features melt away in fat. Especially the face is a project I enjoy; she has less and less of her own facial features, becoming more and more just a round fattie face. I like that.

I like the messing around with her mind, convincing her bigger is better.

I adore the objectification of her body and how she is complicit in it. She's grown used to being touched and squeezed, to me weighing her belly with my hands. To concepts like "if you didn't lose weight you can buy something else". Her weight is no longer a "her" thing; it's a me thing.

Enabling her is an everyday pleasure. Controling what she eats is even better. I decide how much and how fast she grows -- but that she'll grow is for sure.

She's not that heavy, 220-ish, but is on a waiting list for weight loss surgery. Already I've gotten her from "I want to do this for myself" to "I have to think about it". My biggest win will be when I get her to forego the surgery.

People look at people, usually. That's just what we do. And usually we don't think anything specific. If we do, it's gone in seconds. We have our own lives.

If one of those people looked at has a scar on her face, when she's looked at she'll feel "everybody is staring at my scar"

If one of those people looked at is wearing a bright colored hat she is selfconcious about she's going to feel "see, everybody looks at my hat and is judging me!"

And if you're fat, that's what you're going to feel. In reality most people don't notice, don't care.

Always compliment your woman. If you have to think about what your last compliment was, you're not doing it enough. Put your arm around her or walk hand in hand or arm in arm in public. Make it known to her and others you're proud to be seen with your wife.

If you've been that weight for a good while your body is used to that and will most likely do whatever it can to get back there.

I would look at it like a great gift. You get to do the whole gaining fun again

Remain in a good condition. Take the stairs, take walks, all that good stuff.

Eat well. Don't ignore fruits and vegetables.

Play the long game. Instead of these explosion gains, just go for steady gaining. Adding half a lbs every 2 weeks still has you add 20+ lbs a year.

I stopped saying "no, you're not fat at all!, which she knew was a lie, and started saying things like "honesty, I prefer you with a bit of meat on you"

Another time it was about dieting and I told her I'm willing to help but that I don't want to be the food police; "I prefer you with a bit of meat on you so for me when you ask for something you maybe shou;dn't have on your diet, I rather give it to you"

After a bit that turned into "so you're into fat women?" "I don't know; I know I prefer you a bit igger"

Over time this became an overt thing up to the point where when she would mention to a GF she had gained weight, I would add that I think she looks good, and she would say/explain "he likes my belly"

Meanwhile, normalize touching her fat. Incorporate it into your every day touching. Run your hand over her back, squeeze a fat roll, move on. She's used to guys being into her boobs and wanting to touch those; make her feel that way about the rest of her body