SahX:
Yes and not. From my experience as a feeder, the receiving side of Feederism comstitutes alone a much broader bracket of innate, shared or odd philosophical onsets. Some feedees are craving for attention: others for validation, self-expiation out of an act of social or political rebellion, to indulge into some form of "situationship" from which they wouldn't otherwise engage or commit further if there have not such common fixation, to ever release and tame out their libido while involving within a repressive (often ultrareligious or medieval-minded) social environment that tend to shame sexually-freed single women out of wedlock and the list goes on and on.

Sometimes, we are not even dealing with actual proper feedees but either all-round foodies what I may define as "[i]latent or semi-latent potentials[/]" who may been triggered by a lenient erotic purpose from one romantic or ludic interest.

Transcend:
Educate us all about how to keep community engagement ongoing because I think you've kinda killed it off the fun. Along with the other fella which compares feeding to a unexcuseable terrible crime.

AskDrFeeder:
Of course it's fun, but sometimes it actually IS an unexcuseable crime. It's possible and indeed important to draw a line between the two. In fact, for me, if feeding is done in an evil. non-consensual way, it kills all the fun. If you want to have Evil Feeder fantasies (I kind of like them myself)--great, go for it. But as soon as you do it irl I'm 100% opposed.

fatchance:
ALL of this is playacting and we need to dial back the moral outrage.

Unless you are being imprisoned and force fed, you are choosing to eat ... and if you are gaining you are choosing to gain.

You CAN say no. You CAN leave.

But it is a wonderfully sexually stimulating play isn't it? Even the the standard story line of teaching the feedee to become sexual aroused by eating and/or being stuffed is ultimately by consent. It is not as if the "victim" isn't fully aware of what is going on.

Even if your feeder is sexually stimulating you while you are being stuffed in RL, you KNOW that conditioning you is part of the game you are both playing. For the game, pretending you have no choice is all part of it, but it is not the reality.

Let's just climb down off our high horses and our bold moral statements and remember, in truth, every bit of this is done with consent.

AskDrFeeder:
Hopefully it usually is playacting. But if it's an abusive relationship the victim may not truly be able to grant consent. There are also subtle techniques to fatten people without their knowledge.

boundandfeed:
What are these subtle techniques???

Julia1122:
I don't get it really...i would choose orgasms over anything

Nok:
Women don't gain 60 pounds because one random person says its cool to have ice cream.

FemaleFatAdmirer:
Blamers and shamers:



Seriously, OP is doing nothing wrong by saying it's OK to eat what you want. Because guess what? It actually is OK. For this woman. For everyone. It is OK to eat what you want. No matter what size you are.

It is understandable that someone who is gaining might be conflicted, especially a woman gaining that much in a short time. People are shaming her. Maybe it's subtle looks and things, but make no mistake.

Don't we all experience that internal conflict in our lives in some way, where there's a choice we want to keep making even though we don't like (some of) the (possible) consequences? Whether it's a choice to procrastinate or do sloppy work or tell a small lie... Does blurring the line of who's responsible for that choice ever help anyone?

Kink-shamers who want to put the responsibility on you for what this woman chooses to eat are not helping.

What she needs is unconditional support, not for someone else to share in the responsibility for, or take the blame for, her choices.

Unconditional support looks like listening closely to what she says she wants, and being there to either help her with it, cheer her on, enjoy it alongside her, whatever. If she's conflicted, she may want you to support her diet one day and her cheat day the next. Roll with it. It is always her choice, and you are there to support.