I don't think a therapist's job is to persuade or deter anybody from their sexuality, but their role is to give you tools to deal with it, compartmentalize and deal with the shame that surrounds it, maybe even help you figure out ways to readjust your priorities ... on once you figured out how to relate to your fetish, a sex therapist can help you find satisfying and safe ways to practice your fetishes
4 years
the contrast thing definitely exists (I'm a feeder so I get it) but taking it to such extremes is not great! if she got anorexic she probably would have made you huge .. I don't think that's very healthy or sustainable ...
4 years
666Dust777:
The fatter I get, the more I feel embarrassed. I feel so embarrassed that my belly sticks out, and everybody at the store can see how fat I am. And when my family comment on how I'm getting fatter, I get so embarrassed, my face turns red.
What's weird, is that something strange happens - when I get embarrassed about my weight, I get turned on, too. Every time someone comments that they noticed I'm getting bigger, I get really embarrassed, and then my dick starts getting hard.
Some of my best orgasms have been when I'm embarrassed about being fat. I think the shame/embarrassment of getting fat is part of the fetish. The fact that as I get bigger, the fat around my cock starts growing and makes my dick look smaller - and for some reason that turns me on.
I dunno, I guess I'm weird. Can anyone relate? SORRY if I posted this thread in the wrong place - I'm new.
this is completely normal, it's why fat teasing, name calling and even sexual humiliation are big in this community.... and as long as it is consensual it can be pretty hot
4 years
fatchance:
I agree, but isn't it interesting how acceptable it is in our society to say "if you don't LOSE weight I don't think I can love you anymore"
They are both equally bad when they are put that way, if you want your partner to change something about themselves it shouldn't be put in the form of threats and ultimatums.
4 years
Well I found this gem
4 years
I LOVE it, when professional guys in heir 40-50 just embrace the chub and give up the fight against their inner fatty, something about either the late revelation in life, or about the idea of feederism just wearing them out make it very sexy to me!
The world needs more fat people
4 years
As a very gay man who's not fat and identify as a feeder, I started looking at straight porn of BBWs and Feedees and I enjoyed them alot, I guess I get off on that dynamics rather than the person itself, I would never have sex with a woman, just because it feels unfair of me to experiment on unsuspecting people, also because I prefer to have an active/dom role when it comes to sex so I need to be 100% in it. But still, I take a double look whenever I see a big lady in the street, and I always wondered what do big lady boobs feel like
I guess what I'm trying to say is that sexuality is fluid, especially in a community like this, where I see more and more people who constantly blur the line between genders, sexuality and conventional roles.
I guess fat conquers all
4 years
I think the general consensus is that if you kept your blood sugar down (by reducing sugar and highly processed white flour) your blood pressure down (by staying away from salt and drinking water) and cholesterol down (by staying away from trans fats and doing cardio) you'll be okay! you'll be taking the scenic route with your gaining, but who cares, as long as you're enjoying the process)
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