Also, that could be it. They could be trying to handle 10+ men at once trying to be polite but it's not something that a person can do and it ends up falling to bits.
It's like... imagine what it's like getting bombarded, hour after hour, day after day, week after week with chat requests/etc. Lots of them. It all blurs in together. How can they accept them
As I told one fellow before, it's common courtesy to chat in the General room first. Or whisper, if one wants to be a little more private. Better than hammering a lady with private chat requests o