There are many factors, so I don't know what you should do.

But note: 1.) the older you get, the less anyone gives a damn about what you do; 2. middle-aged people tend to be fatter than young o...

To all who object to the word "coax" above:

I see your point, but I certainly oppose forcing, tricking, pressuring, manipulating anyone into gaining weight (or losing weight, for that matter!) ...

For those of you whose partner was initially not interested in gaining weight and who eventually came around and started eating more and gaining:

How did you do it?

Is it anyone's goal to get as fat as possible without getting too fat for bariatric surgery?

Is it it anyone's goal to get TOO fat for bariatric surgery?

Has anyone had either goal and reache...

Measure yourself as you gain, see where the weight is going.

...eat so much you can't eat another bite and feel sad that you have to stop?

It's rough. You might have to give up some of your old life, I don't know. Or you might find that people value you for other things than your slenderness. You won't know until you try gaining a...

Intentional Gaining philosophies.

Can you think of any more? Which one are you?

1. Careful planner -- you decide on how much you want to gain, gain that much and stop.

2. Stage by stage --...

I doubt you can completely suppress it but you can just keep it as a fantasy and find happiness elsewhere. There's more to life than feedism.

[quote]Chloe24xx:there are times when the urge is stronger and it leads me to want to try it out but later I'm back to my normal self where I then feel weird and confused about it, because i have b...

It's probably better not to tell people you're gaining intentionally, but you can tell people you've tried dieting and find that you're happier if you eat what you want.

I think the biggest problem is that most people don't want to be out about this stuff. It'd be hard to do that on a seriously interesting podcast.

There was one with two male feedees who would do interviews with guest male feedees. I'm not into men, but it was kind of interesting in a general way. Got repetitive though. They'd basically do fe...

A quibble: If you plan to stop at a certain weight I'd call that a limit. A goal is your minimum target weight, a limit is your maximum target weight.

Of course your goal could be your limit...

I'm not sure exactly how common it is, but I've heard the story many times. Seems like as soon as they're on their own they start eating way more without even thinking much about it.

One woman I chatted with used to have a feeder who'd stuff her to that too-full-to-take-a-deep-breath point as part of sex.

She got so she had to stuff like that to have an orgasm, even after sh...

I have no hard data, but it seems to me that the people most likely to go out of control are those who stuff to the point where they can't take a deep breath once a week or more.

Stuffing like t...

My own take on the downsides: there are risks to getting fat, but people often take risks to do what they love. Getting fat is safer than a lot of things people do: base-jumping, playing football, ...

The "Growing Horizons" site has some tips as well--though they're VERY fat-positive. I.e., they preach it and make it sound like there are no downsides to getting fat. But of course there are.

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The article "Deciding to Get Fat" from my old site has helped some: https://web.archive.org/web/20201111145306/http://askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/dtgf.html