Well, you know your wife and family better than we do--though we can at least establish that, in general, contemporary society does not exactly celebrate fatness and weight gain. You could:
- Be open and talk to your wife (and possibly your family) about your fat-related interests. Approach the topic as delicately and deliberately as necessary. If you're too sensitive about it to do that (I know I was until recently), you could try a less desirable option (IMO):
- Do a "test gain" of somewhere around ~15-20 pounds, then see how your wife/(family) react--but more importantly, examine how *you* feel. You're young and fit, which will make gaining harder at first--but losing most or all of the weight will be easier should you choose to do so.

Hard to offer more advice without knowing you. Probably obvious, but just remember that actually gaining a lot of weight and living with it is far, far different than fantasizing about it.

Privately, and on here, my gain has made be proud. I worked hard for my obesity!
Publicly, I feel inner pride but some outer shame, since massive weight gain is not exactly celebrated by others.
Most of all, though, the gain(ing) is an incredible turn-on. Just thinking about it is sexually exciting.

My personal limits on both sides of the spectrum are the same: If a lady is so thin--or so fat that she loses her "womanly" appearance, I find that less desirable. Fat distribution plays into this. I can be equally attracted to a 90-pound woman and to a 450-pound woman if they both 'carry their weight' well.

^^Softly 1 and ^chubbyhoney have provided excellent responses.

I'm relatively ignorant when it comes to transgenderism because I've never *really* been educated about it, either formally or informally. That could cause me to accidentally offend a person. (I'm open and curious to learn more, however.)

"Waking up fat" is definitely one fantasy of mine -- and probably not that uncommon. I love the kafkaesque scenario of slowly waking up and becoming aware that you're twice or three times fatter than when you went to sleep: the shock, the terrifying yet exciting reality of it, the physical helplessness as you flail your little arms and legs about in a vain attempt just to sit up.

But *all things being equal* I'd prefer to gain over time. If I reached my goal overnight, what would I have to look forward to?

The height range for profiles is 4'7" to 7'2". A lady recently joined who is 3'9" (PM me if you need her username.) I gently suggest changing the minimum height to 3'9" or lower.

If you truly love your wife it might be time to be honest and direct with your friends about this. Those who react negatively should probably be discarded. Then you can make new friends with people who are more open-minded, tolerant, less judgmental, and less childish.

Equally exciting but in different ways; they're not mutually exclusive.

TorRed69's whole fantasy is *very* well realized, but it's this part I really love. The idea of being hypnotized or brainwashed into an endless cycle of eating, sexual gratification, and gaining -- completely obliterating any self-control and literally transforming into another person -- is an ultimate fantasy.

It's definitely better in some ways -- I'd say particularly when I'm *surprised* by some unforeseen consequence of the gain: Like accidentally bumping into things because I'm not quite certain where the boundaries of my body are.

...Or when I was at the tailor's the other day to get new fat pants shortened, for instance. All I had to do was climb into the booth and get into and out of two new pairs of pants. By the time I checked out, I was sweating and out of breath as I struggled to give my information without making it obvious that I felt like the victim of a triathlon. This was a real turn-on and rewarding in a strange way. (Then I walked to the 7-11 next door and bought more food.)

I also just love the sensation of being fat: all this new soft, warm, jiggly mass on my body is awesome and so fun to play with! That's not something I ever really thought about or could relate to before the gain.