It's not, really- while there's fat-related acceptance to be found here, and it should be great for it, it's not. FF promotes fat positivity, but is at its core very much a fetish site, so it attracts a lot of people who are here just for that element and who assume that all others are here for their specific turn-ons.

This is a common issue, really. One only needs to look at the countless threads by women complaining about the inappropriate messages they've received, or such posts in threads started by men whining about how their messages get ignored; a lack of acknowledging someone's profile information, or what they are (or, more specifically, aren't) into, or any of that stuff, is a major issue with a pretty significant portion of the members here, and it's something that's needed to be addressed for a long time.

EDIT: And I really want to note that this is not a criticism towards you at all, littlemermaid- but you do have a view of what FF is that's not quite in line with what it actually entails regarding acceptance.

While I agree with you for the most part, I do also feel that it's not a man's place to interject himself into spaces where women are (and should be) the main focus and in control. So I defer to the women in feminist spaces on whether or not I should call myself a feminist, or a feminist ally, or something else; it is antithetical if I identify myself in a way that makes women uncomfortable.

I will, in general, call myself a feminist, because that's a quick and easy identifier of my basic beliefs here, but if asked to do otherwise by feminist women, I'm more than happy to change that label in their spaces.

Are you the only homophobe in your family too, or does everyone use "gay" as an insult?

If you want facts and examples of rape culture, we can discuss how a minute fraction of rapists actually serve jail time; or the pressure that is put on women to not charge someone with rape after they have been raped; or the extensive history of covering up rape cases involving college athletes; or how a significant majority of college-aged men admitted to coercing or forcing a woman to have sex with them without calling it rape; or how women are told to follow a particular set of rules to not get raped instead of more effort being made to get men to not rape.

I could go on, but hopefully you get the basic idea about this here. This isn't any sort of an all-inclusive list or anything, just mentioning a handful of examples of what "rape culture" actually entails in western society.

ITT: men who do not understand feminism yell at feminists in order to prove that women are not as oppressed as they claim to be, because men can have their feelings hurt too and "equality" is just a better idea than gender superiority.

Additionally Danny's talking about people passing by as he's got it up on his browser, not going into a deep discussion about it.

If you claim to be willing to be seen with a fat woman in public but are mortified at the thought of someone possibly seeing that you're on a fat-positive website, you've got some serious cognitive dissonance to work out.

A majority of FF is just fat-positive rather than just exploring the various nuances and intricacies of the fetish. To qualify the whole thing as a fetish site when there's so much of it that's just fat people existing as fat people is just ridiculous.

No, friends and family don't have to be privy to what I masturbate to, but so much of this site is not that, unless you're sexually aroused by unappealing color themes.

Frame this and hang it on the ***ing wall so you can point to it whenever some *** comes in making such sentiments as this post addresses.

I get the feeling that maybe you don't belong here. Or anywhere, really.

Consent is not sexy.

Consent is ***ing mandatory.