Morbidly A Beast:
I’ve been a single Pringle for a very long time, and after a lot of reflecting I genuinely don’t miss it, sure I long for meaningful connections but I don’t think that person is essential to the “mission” if that makes sense.

Have you thought about getting like a cat or a dog?

LoopsnBloops:
I pray, dear reader, you do not know these frustrations. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. As I watch my friends fall in love and find their special person I am in hell looking at heaven. I pray you are not so deep into this community that you cannot exist without it.

I fucking hate the feedism community and so badly wish I could erase it from my sense of self but thats not how these things work.

Lastly, I hope you find love. It's the least anyone is owed.

~ Loopsnbloops

Canuck:
hey, great post - i suspect you are not alone in how you feel. and the fact that you've done some math to try to figure this out is pretty cool (to me), although i have an innate distrust of all statistics.

let me give you another perspective.

i grew up like you; knowing i was a feedist before i had words to put to it. and i honestly thought i was the only one, until i discovered the internet, when i was already dating fat girls without even wanting to admit to myself that the fact they were fat made them more attractive to me.

in the almost 30 years since then, i have changed a lot. i discovered i was queer/bi-sexual, and have had female, male and trans partners. at the age of about 40 i went from a fit, lean athletic (feeder) body and began my gaining journey that tripled my size (becoming a feedee). i have had many, many partners (i think the technical term for my behaviour in my 20s and 30ths is "floozy" , but i have had maybe 6 very serious, long-lasting relationships over those 30 years that i could have thought would have been the "forever" partner.

of those 6, only 2 knew what feedism was when i met them.

i remember a partner that i lived with, we were gym buddies. he did not have any idea that i was a feeder, we never talked about our kinks or preferences until after we became a couple. he was very muscular and wanted to "bulk." i used that as my window and explained to him that i was a feeder, i could help. he would be my feedee. for a year, he really got into it, and feeding became a big part of our sex life (along with bondage and other fun stuff!). i grew him to over 300 lbs, with a big, soft, beautiful gut.

my current partner (amazingem) met me when i was 330 lbs. she liked fat guys, but she was not a feeder - she'd never heard the word before! but she helped me get to 470+ lbs through feeding. i introduced her to the concept, even to ff and feabie - she's not a die-hard like the rest of us, but she appreciates aspects of it, and she knows she can use aspects of feeding to turn me on. i don't think she would describe herself as a feeder, but she often performs that function in our play time.

the point i'm trying to make is, don't limit yourself to one kind of intimacy. people are complex, we have many, many sides. we don't *just* like to feed, or be feed, or wear leather, or be tied up, etc.... we are not one-dimensional. so don't limit yourself to a single dimension, either. there's other things you find joy in - if you think there aren't, you need to get out more and experience some other stuff! because no one is that binary.

intimacy is based on trust. if you find someone you trust, and develop some kind of affection, like in my experience, you may find they will be interested (at some level) in the things that interest you. but it takes compromise, too. if you go into a relationship with an all-or-nothing mindset, unwilling to compromise, well, that's not a relationship - you are probably looking at something more transactional at that point.

best of luck in your search - i hope you find someone that you are compatible with, outside of feeding, because that is far, far more important, in my experience.

LoopsnBloops:
I've always loved the concept that the kinkspace we inhabit would somehow flip to be the whole world. Obviously this is fantasy but what if it wasn't just accepted but instead pushed as a way of life. I'd love to think about what aspects of modern day life would change. What unexpected things would be affected.

Fashion would trend to show off fat thighs and big guts. Buttons busting would be a something to be prideful of. Country clubs and high class establishments would have weight requirements. Products would advertise high calories and tv ads would show off very different before and after images!

Though maybe your waistline would be given away to your partner like a gift when you marry. Staying thin and dieting until married at which point plumping up would be commonplace. A contest even. "Well Jim got his wife to gain 120lbs in a year. Can't we do that too?"

Gyms would still exist but would separate the feeders made to stay thin and those looking to gain. Equipment that would massage the new rolls and feed via funnels would sit next to the benches and treadmills that their partners would use to keep up contrast.

What else would you expect to see different? What possible changes would be shocking or unique?

Munchies:
For the day-to-day? I expect that to be more or less the same. Some things will undoubtedly become more fat-friendly such as medical care, clothes, transportation, etc. However, I also expect some issues to be the same but reversed.

For example, women are pressured to look slender yet curvy (but to too curvy). In this world, we'd be pressured to look fat. More than likely, we'd be pressured to look a specific kind of fat too.

So, overall, I'd expect things to be different, but not necessarily better.