I had a little bit of a belly as a kid, but it wasn't until I hit puberty around 12 that I started getting truly chubby. Then I yo-yo dieted for years before discovering the FA/feedism scene. I had always had a secret desire to be hugely fat, but suppressed it because I thought I would never find romance if I was fat. Once I figured out that there are people who think fat is beautiful... well, first I just stopped dieting. Then I decided to try being a feedee, and I love it!

I do. I love the feeling of my fat jiggling and wobbling as I move, unhindered by clothes. Most of my clothes are pretty tight now so they tend to hold it in to some degree.

If I could magically get as fat as I wanted with no health or budget concerns ever... hmm, I would try for 500! I'm fairly tall and strong for a woman, so I think I could still walk (well, waddle) under the weight of that much fat. I don't want to be immobile or need a scooter, I just want to be covered in soft, plush, jiggly blubber with a beautifully large belly hang!

Haha, no, I've just been trying to figure out my own desires for a while now with limited success. Not sure how well anyone can psychoanalyze themselves, but I'm sure as hell not telling a therapist about this kink!

Yeah, I get a lot of people on FF and Feabie wanting to dom me, force feed me, etc. I get why people make that assumption, apparently dominant feedees are rare, but it still bugs me a little.

I wonder why other feedees don't like being in control? Is it the cultural paradigm of fat equaling weakness? For me fat is a luxury, embracing hedonism and pleasure. I love the fantasy of being a decadent queen or ancient Roman noblewoman, lounging on silken cushions while my servant feeds me rare delicacies!

I'm a feedee, and what I would describe as a gentle domme given the opportunity. I want to order my sub around, have them serve me, but not humiliate them or cause them pain beyond a light spanking. And I want to care for my sub, praise and reward them for good service.

That being said, s/d play is not a necessity for me. I would also be happy with a feeder who isn't into that and would rather just feed me cookies and rub my tummy. Or someone who's into mutual gaining. I don't do force feeding, one of the great pleasures of fatness for me is choosing what and how much I want to eat.

You're very welcome, and kudos for researching these things ahead of time! I thought of a couple more things.

Bathing: Get a detachable shower head, they're not too expensive and make SUCH a difference in keeping all the nooks and crannies clean! There's nothing better for washing under my belly hang. Cleanliness is more important the fatter you get, especially if you have lots of rolls, since bacteria and yeasts love skin folds.

If your partner enjoys taking baths, a standard sized bathtub will not do the job. If you own your home and can afford some renovation, consider installing an extra wide tub. Have your partner come to showrooms with you so they can see if they fit in the various models of bathtubs. If you rent or cannot afford renovation, save up for an occasional trip to a local day spa so they can soak in a nice peaceful hot tub.

Heat: Everyone is different in this regard, I've met a couple fat women who hated the cold and basked in the heat. (I suspect they might have some untreated hypothyroidism.) But most fat people I've talked to overheat easily, including me. I have so much insulating blubber now and I'm still packing it on! Take the heat into account when planning outdoor activities and chores. I hate vacuuming because of the hot vacuum exhaust, for example. Fortunately the house I currently live in has hard floors everywhere so I can sweep and mop instead. And standing over a hot stove for a long time is very uncomfortable. I'll happily cook things like stir fry, eggs, pancakes, sausage, pan seared meats, sautes, foods that don't take too long. Baking is fine too, I can get out of the kitchen and cool off for a while once I put the food in the oven. But soups, sauces, and puddings that require standing at the stove and stirring forever? I'll melt into a puddle of sweat!

Let me know if you have any more questions, I'm happy to help.

Thank you!

I've always preferred to sleep on my stomach or my side. It's hard for me to get to sleep on my back, every time I try I wake up on my stomach or side. Been this way since I was a kid and only a little chubby, so I don't think it has to do with how I've fattened myself up.

This is very true. I'm currently around 360 and still fairly strong and mobile. A few difficulties have been developing in the last year or so, though.

Restaurant booths and chairs: Before taking your partner to a new restaurant, take a look at the seating arrangements. Most chairs with arms are uncomfortable for me, since I tend to gain weight in my lower half (hips/butt/thighs). And booths can sometimes be a tight squeeze. Hot, but pressure on my belly isn't conducive to filling it all the way.

Cars: I can squish myself into a compact car if I have to, but it's not very comfortable. Larger vehicles fit me better. People who gain primarily in the belly may have an easier time with this.

Air travel: I'll definitely have to get two seats if I ever fly again. If you're booking a flight for you and your partner, check their policy toward "customers of size". Southwest is pretty good about it. Again, people with most of their weight in the belly might be good with just a seatbelt extender. My problem is wide hips and butt.

Feet: It's getting harder to deal with shoes and cut/paint my toenails as my belly grows. I can do it, it's just a pain. If I had an SO who offered to help me it would be amazing!

Stuff on the floor: My new weight distribution is kind of throwing off my balance. Again, I can pick things up off the floor or scrub the floor, it's just harder. I would happily trade other chores for an SO to scrub the floor for me.

Furniture: Sturdy furniture is more expensive, sadly, but it would do wonders for my peace of mind. I keep wondering when my cheap office chair and IKEA armchair are going to break. Pretty sure neither of them was intended to hold 300+ pounds on a regular basis! Plus my hips are now overflowing the armchair.

Walking together: Please slow down a bit and don't be surprised if your partner wants to pause for a quick break now and then. You would think this was obvious, but considering how many friends and family members have left me in the dust, it's apparently not.

Deep tissue all the way! I have chronic tension and pain in my shoulders and upper back. In that area I like my massage therapist to go as hard as they can. In the rest of my body I prefer a more moderate pressure, but still deep tissue. Mmm, it hurts so good when a strong massage therapist digs their thumb or elbow into a big muscle knot!