Let's be real, 48" waist is pretty huge. Also medical professionals would say that his BMI is in the 'morbidly obese' category, and his BMI would put him in the fattest 3 to 4% of men in the US. I'm sure he can't do sports the way he used to, but I'd guess he is heavy enough for his belly to get in the way of more than just sports.

Of course, there is nothing wrong with liking that, either on your part or his. As you say, he's a grown man and can make his own body choices, and you are a grown woman and can take ownership of your own sexuality.

I'm just saying that I don't think you do either of you a favour by saying he isn't really all that big. Accept that he really is quite fat, and that you like him like that, and carry on rocking life.

I wasn't quite as direct, it was more like "I'm not a fan of thin. I like pretty much all other sizes, so don't worry that I'll ever think you are too fat for me. I want you happy and healthy above everything though." It probably wasn't as coherent or concise as that, and I think was broken up over a few conversations to get the full message, but basiclly that.

At the time she'd gained maybe 15 pounds from when we'd met, and was maybe overweight by the BMI chart but nothing close to fat. But she loves food, and genetics were on my side (SSBBW and BHM parents), and from there she gained another 75 pounds over the next five years before deciding that she'd gotten too big for her comfort and losing ~20 for a while. She's been back to around that initial high a few times, lost 20-30 pounds a few times, but keeps drifting back upwards over time until she really begins to feel too fat again.

She doesn't have any fat related kinks. Her tummy is sensitive, but my playing with her fat there is no sort of turn on for her. Sure she loves her butt being grabbed, but because butt grabs feel good not because it is big and fat. Some days she feels pretty good about her looks, some days she'd like to lose fifty pounds (I always listen sympathetically, but I don't think she is in any danger of her actually losing that much, certainly not of keeping it off for long).

But she does like the lifestyle, of being able to enjoy plenty of good food. She really is a foodie, loving to explore food, make food, eat food, think about food! She appreciates that I'm perfectly happy with that, but that I also help her to stay active.

So how did it work out? Pretty well I guess. It didn't work out like in my fat fantasies, and our sexualities have never matched up perfectly, but we muddle along pretty well and life is good.

Guys' pics generally get a lot less attention than women's pics. So I wouldn't say that nobody pays attention to pics, but as a guy you are only going to get so much attention.

I think that unless you have a very impressive belly, people get bored with the classic belly selfie. You might want some of those for your memories, but you won't get a lot of attention on them usually.

A well done pic may grab more eyeballs. Use the timer on your phone (or camera) to give you more scope in how you pose. Play with light. Crop the picture for effect. Look up online tips for posing. Pay attention to your background. Consider pics that tease what you want to show instead of showing it all (showing a bit of belly bulge showing in an open suit jacket for example, rather than just a bare belly).

I don't promise that doing all of that will get you a lot of attention, but it probably improves your odds.

I've come to appreciate sweating more, since we discovered that my son barely sweats, so very easily overheats and so has to avoid a lot of situations. I don't like dripping and being all glossy and what all, but I do appreciate my body being able to keep me cool.

Thing one to have very clear in your mind is that trying to change someone else's body without their consent is not ethical. So no tricking your bf into gaining weight, coercing him, etc.

If he is on a scholarship, gaining weight right now could have a huge financial impact on him if he lost that funding. If that is not the case then he'll have more freedom. But either way, if you want him to gain more, you need to talk to him about it. He has an identify as an athlete, and all the privilege that comes with being thin and fit. Even if he likes pleasing you, even if he loves food, even if he is not personally fussed about getting a bit softer, those other factors may lead him to not want to.

Basically, random thin people are not frequently willing to gain weight (but some are). It is a tough spot to be in, realizing that you are an FA when in a serious relationship with somone who is not fat and may not want to become fat.

Best of luck in navigating all of this.

Be very careful messing around with hormones! From what I've read, sufficient doses and duration of female hormones to have a noticeable increase in male breast size can potentially cause permanent fertility issues, for example. So basically don't do that without doing a lot of research first and being sure you are cool with the risks (and ideally talking with a doctor)

One thought is if you can adjust what you are wearing? Breathable fabrics (or wicking fabrics), short--sleeves, etc. Keep a sweater handy for when you are just sitting around if you would get cold then.

But you are burning more energy to move that fatter body, which means you are generating more heat. Plus fat does make it a bit harder to dissipate the heat. So overall, yah, sweating more as you get bigger does tend to be a thing.

Like with most things in life, if you only want to do it when you are horny, it probably isn't the best idea. When you get to the point where you are still cool with it after nutting, then you are more likely ready. (in my opinion, which is worth what you paid for it, your mileage may vary, etc)

There isn't a like button on posts in here, so I'm just responding to say that you offer the best and most practical advice. Always a treat to see your posts, and often educational too.

It is going to depend a fair bit on how tall you are, how active you are (both for how strong you are to carry the weight, and for how soon you notice the difference in weight), and how you are built. Personally I've only put on ~65 pounds in adulthood (over many years) so I couldn't fully answer that. But I can say what I've observed of my wife who put on over 90 pounds in the first half dozen years that we were together, and then has bounced around near that max in the many years since.

For reference:
-She started at a BMI of ~23, and ended up ~38..
-about 5'7",
-all hip and thigh (even when thin).
-When we met she was walking about 90 minutes most days (to/from university) plus walking between classes and at a part time job, but didn't do other activities. So strong legs and decent endurance but not otherwise especially fit.

We got married about 2/3 of the way through that, and at that time she really hadn't noticed much changing her life with the weight gain, other than having to move to plus sized clothes (a LOT less options). But at our wedding she realized how much her ankles and feet swelled up when standing for a long time at that size, kind of puffing out of her shoes a bit by the end.

Around that same time she tried to pick up some winter sports, but found that combined with previous ankle damage the weight was too much for her with skating, she didn't have the strength to support her ankles (she had barely skated before so didn't have the balance and technique that would have helped there). And with cross country skiing she kept falling at first, and eventually we realized that her thighs were two thick for her to follow existing set tracks (which have the two skis really close together)

At about bmi 36 she began to 'feel fat' which I'd say was mostly that the fat was beginning to become more noticeable in everyday life. But she began to bike regularly around then, and if she was slow at first and struggled with hills it went fine. She began to really notice the heat more around that point, and had more problems with the legs of shorts riding up between her thighs when walking.

When she first hit her heaviest her walking had noticeably slowed, she had been a faster than average walker but if I unconsciously went my normal pace she had to ask me to slow down else she'd be out of breath quickly. Also having to step aside to let people pass sometimes. One flight of stairs was still no big deal, but two called for a few seconds break at the top to catch her breath. She began to have issues with some chairs.

No family really said anything, although who knows what they thought. I had one friend make a couple of comments to me about her size, but he's an ass like that in general.

In the years since then she's bounced up and down by twenty or thirty pounds a few times, always eventually getting back up to around that previous high. Now even at her heaviest she bikes at a pretty good clip and can handle substantial hills, and doesn't have to take a break after two flights of stairs. Strength/stamina caught up with the weight eventually I guess. A few more tries on skating and cross country skiing and those are both no goes still. Most people who know her now have only known her fat, so that is just who she is to them. Never any comments at jobs or school council or the like. A lot of stores carry up to her size now so clothes have gotten easier (although still not as easy as at size 14 or less).

FWIW I'm at BMI ~36 now, and last year I was still skating fine at BMI ~34 (although leaning over far enough to tighten my skates was tough), so I think her skating issues are not absolute with the weight. I can say that for me around bmi 34-35 I really began to feel fat, with more issues bending over, slowing in my walk, and just rubbing against my own body more (thigh on thigh, arm on side fat roll, belly on thigh, double chin on neck when looking down, etc). Occasionally I get annoyed or impatient at the limitation from this size, but I also love the softness and roundness, the occasional jiggles or feeling of my belly swaying. There are good things about being thinner, but for me at least there are plenty of good things about being fat too.