If I ever start a restaurant, these will be on the menu.

The Pulp Fiction
Tall stack of Blueberry Pancakes with
maple syrup
Eggs over easy
Five sausages
Tall glass of orange juice
Black Coffee
Blueberry pie with slice of melted cheese

The Pan-American
Bacon Cheeseburger
French Fries
Chocolate Shake
Enchilada
Taco
Rice
Beans
Tortilla chips
Flan

The Dr. F
Cheesburger
Fries
Chocolate Shake
Fried Chicken Drumstick
Hot Dog
Cheesecake
Two Chocolate Truffles
Slice of pizza
Banana split

--Exercise...preferably low-impact, like swimming.
--Don't smoke. Smoking and obesity in combination are riskier than either is alone.
--Avoid alcohol. Alcohol use and obesity in combination are riskier than either is alone.
--You can get fairly cheap blood pressure monitors these days. Check it regularly and maybe moderate the gaining if it gets out of whack.
--The same goes for blood-sugar monitors.

You don't need to tell people about the sexual part of it. That's none of their business. And anyway, almost everyone has a private kink or two.

Go with the PG version.

Feedees can say: "I find I'm happier if I eat what I want."

Feeders can say: "Oh, [my feedee is] happier if she eats what she wants. So I don't bother her about it."

Now, if you're an Fat Admirer (most feeders are) it may become obvious to people that you're an FA, since you usually date fat people. But you don't have to get into it. If someone asks if you're an FA, you can just say something like "Oh, I don't care about people's weight. It's their character that matters."

I think it's reasonable to ask.

It's also reasonable to decline or defer such a request.

Of course 220 isn't death feedism. Just saying it could turn into that. As far as feeder responsibility goes...like I said, I'm conflicted about all of it. Glad to hear your opinion on this, but I'm not quite on the same page.

I would never encourage someone to become a death feedist or get into a relationship with someone who was already. I have to think the end of it would be pretty grim whatever you do.

There is one scenario that I wonder about though: what if my feedee wanted to gain from, I don't know, 160 to 220 and we agree she'll stop there. Then she gets to 220 and loves it so much she doesn't want to stop.

She's out of control...maybe she'll go on a diet at times, but she always blows it and goes back to eating and gaining, even if I help her stay on the diet. At some point it's death feedism even if she doesn't want to call it that. Or maybe she does call it that...she loves eating so much she doesn't want to stop for anything.

I'd feel conflicted. Since I'd encourage her to gain the initial 60 pounds, I'd feel at least partly responsible for her going out of control. Thus I'd feel obliged to see to her comfort, maybe even to the point of making sure she could continue overeating.

I'm really not sure what I'd do in this scenario.

I don't have other challenges, but just made one up: try to eat 5 out of the 9 items. If you succeed, go for 6 out of 9 the next time. Then 7 of 9, 8 of 9, then the entire thing!

Variety, variety, variety. For example, the Dr. Feeder challenge: In one sitting, eat

a piece of fried chicken
milkshake
cheeseburger
two chocolate truffles
fries
banana split
hot dog
slice of pizza
piece of cheesecake in one sitting.

Here's someone trying it:

They've been taking new accounts for the last 6 days or so.

I think you're right on the line--since she knows you want her fatter, she must know you're tempting her into getting fatter.

If she hasn't said anything about wanting to watch her weight or asked you not to make such fattening stuff, I think you're okay. But the day she does you have to respect that and quit tempting her or at least have a conversation about what she eats and what you cook and what your and her expectations are.