No it's not just you. There really is something seemingly juvenile about roleplay and make believe. Adults are expected to understand the cold, hard reality and if they'd like to do something, to actually make it happen. There's daydreaming and being lost in thought, but that's different.

Hell, it really reminds me of when folks used to refer to "cybering" online. Mostly amongst those who are officially too young for this site (and I'm duty bound to ban if I discover any). I think the kids call it "sexting" now.

That said, I suppose you might find some folks of all ages who might do this if you search long and hard enough. While not too common, there's some adults who still have a sense of being a child at heart. I never had the desire to engage in online roleplay, and I completely outgrew any notions of make believe after I turned 12 or so. Even roleplay questions at some job interviews irritate me and make me think less of the company. But, some folks never really do outgrow this stuff at all.

Just my opinion but that would seem really far-fetched, unlikely, very unrealistic, and maybe even a little sad.

In the modern era, maybe even in poor taste? I might be overthinking this though.

It'd be quite a downgrade in lifestyle. Since the collapse of the Soviet Union, many of the former states of the Soviet Bloc have continued to be characterized by horrendous poverty and costly food.

About 15 years ago, I met a university instructor who actually did marry a woman who came from the Ukraine. He said that a pound of beef was something like $12/lb. there, and that's at nominal exchange rates, not even purchasing power parity. And the average salaries aren't even close to comparable. Also keep in mind, that was back in '07. I didn't ask him when he married her, but presumably it was some years back. Even before the Russian-Ukraine debacle, I wouldn't be surprised if that still remained high. This instructor would still visit the Ukraine about 3 weeks out of the year, maybe to do some volunteer work and a chance for his wife to see family, so I considered him knowledgeable about the subject. Wonder what he'd say about the current situation over there now.

He also told me that a short time after she moved here, she gained 20 lbs. Pretty sure she isn't a feedee, a gainer, or anything like that either.

I wouldn't thus expect a "peasant" to be particularly heavy, due to what may be a lack of cheaper, highly processed foods over there. Although, if it's possible for someone there to be both poor and heavy, I'd like to hear about it. After all, there are very heavy people in France, even though it was my understanding the local cuisine makes this kind of a challenge.

The opposite scenario seems more realistic. Someone from such a background gets the opportunity to visit America and meets someone, where a relationship somehow allows her to stay. Or maybe there's an American tourist (business or pleasure) that she meets. Maybe the tourist is fat. Maybe a "mail-order bride" dating service is used, or maybe not.

Or since this mail-order concept can often take many months and even years (the USCIS has been cracking down, doing what they can to ensure it's "real" and not just some sort of immigration fraud).. maybe after each visit to the fat man in America, she comes back fatter each time.

Anyway, just kind of spitballing here. Take it for what you will.

Kind of curious what kind of answers folks might say. I've lived here for years and I've yet to get any good answers to this question.

I was briefly chatting to an FFA but then she stopped replying and never got an answer to that question. Maybe it's due to my lack of pictures and not being heavy enough yet. I also live alone so I'm not really motivated to eat out at sit-down restaurants. If I'm in the mood for takeout it's typically one of the chains that's not exclusive to DFW. If I go out it's typically bars, but then I'm there to drink and hang out with the other regular patrons, not eat.

Whataburger is probably the least bad fast food place for burgers but, pretty sure you have that in Pearland so meh. Though as regional chains go, it's the least bad one I've experienced.

Just my opinion, but... post the entire thing in one go, or don't post it at all. Don't add chapters over time. You might be thinking.. why? Don't TV shows release new episodes once a week?

TV shows do release once a week, but often times the story and plot line of every episode may very well be determined before the season premier. Then it's a question of the actors and set staying on script.

Alternatively, you could write the entire story in one go and post new chapters over time like a TV show, but not everyone is able to release new chapters reliably, like clockwork. Life happens, there's schedule problems, some folks are just too busy, technical problems, or you just forget about it. I don't know if you'd be able to post new chapters on a schedule reliably, or not.

TV shows are different, since that's the entire point of the company. They will release the next episode, so you know it's coming for a fact.

There's also the risk of writer's block, which is why I'd recommend against writing the story as you go. There's a very creative aspect, and I don't believe this can be rushed under pressure.

Why do I say this? I don't read the stories very often, but if there's anything I really, really dislike and leaves a very bad taste in my mouth, it's an unfinished story that the author forgot about, and it's been weeks or months. It's about 100 times worse if there's a serious cliffhanger at the end that never gets resolved. A cliffhanger at the end of a TV episode, particularly a multi-part extra long TV episode, I don't mind because I know the conclusion will come.

I don't know if you've ever played the game Half-Life 2, but if you have, you'd know exactly what I'm talking about, and the very bad feeling that was caused. Eventually, it got so bad one of the story writers basically posted the plot of what would have been the third episode (with changed names to dodge copyright laws) just to give fans some sort of closure, since it was obvious Valve had no intention of releasing another game to complete the story line. It's probably a good thing Valve Software basically doesn't make games anymore, and only really administers the Steam platform, since I'm pretty sure they burned any good will they might have had. It's really too bad. Whenever they did release something, it was a very high quality product by the standards of the time.

I'd recommend using each experience, and any feedback you might get, as advice on what the next story might be like. I know one thing I like, is when an author writes multiple stories in the same universe, particularly when any one of those stories can stand on their own. You don't necessarily have to read the others to understand it. I think this would provide a lot of engagement.

I'm asking you to consider an approach similar to what most large YouTube channels use. Each uploaded video includes the entire video, and the author builds upon the feedback he gets and takes it into consideration for the next video, and so on.

BMI is inexact for it's intended purpose for perhaps obvious reasons, and it should hopefully be obvious when I tell you what the formula is.

BMI = (lbs * 703) / ( (inches of height) ^ 2 )

Supposedly, BMI was originally metric so the formula is even simpler, though I don't recall that formula. So, assuming your profile information is correct..

(210 * 703) / (71 * 71) = 147,630 / 5,041 = BMI of ~29.29.


It can also be used in reverse, too.

(Target BMI * (inches of height) ^ 2) / 703 = target weight. So for example..

(30 * 71 * 71) / 703 = ~215.1 lbs

That suggests if you gain about 6 lbs, you'd have a BMI of 30, the minimum number the CDC considers within the range of obesity.


It's fun in the context of feederism, but that's about it since it's so inexact. It's useless when you consider there's muscley bodybuilder types, and it's beyond useless for women during pregnancy.

Looking at your profile, it says you're 22 years old. That's not quite long enough to start noticing trends firsthand, and often times folks aren't always aware of history.

I don't know if I'd worry about that too much yet. Many of these things came and went over the years. Whether there's "miracle" pills, or atrocious fad diets.

If you want to read about something gruesome, you can read up on another weight loss drug called Fen Phen. While it did increase weight loss by suppressing appetite, it caused high rates of heart problems and death so it was taken off the market in '97 and resulted in billions in legal judgements. I remember how very spirited a lot of posts on Dimensions (the only real feederism game in town in the late 90s) were in the late 90s regarding Fen Phen, and the anger it inspired.

Other fads that failed - sugar free foods, fat free foods.. remember when folks thought fat in food was supposed to be bad? Now it's carbs.

I just hope this won't end in the same tragic outcome that Fen Phen did, because that was ugly.


For the last 70 years, at least, obesity and waistlines have continued to expand almost everywhere, except North Korea. This is in spite of all the various anti-fat trends and whatever else. I don't see that ending any time soon.

It might. Would be better if it was in another abuse report, so all the moderators can see it.

Moving this to the Chat/Role play board.

Ugh, I hate catfish. Good thing I don't live in Louisiana.

For future reference, we'd appreciate if these details can be included in abuse reports.

Unfortunately, since it's often a matter of he said/she said, or one person who just wants to cause grief after an argument or something, it may not always be possible to take action on that single report alone. But when there's multiple reports about someone, odds are they aren't all wrong. We try to remove catfish quickly, in as fair a manner as possible.

Remember, in reports the more details the better. If others had the same experience and also file abuse reports, even better.

This thread doesn't read like a Personals Ad, so I'm moving it to General.

Not really sure if I can offer good advice. If you really can't find some sort of compromise, it might very well be irreconcilable differences. No one reasonable expects both members of the couple to be an exact mirror image of each other, but well.. ever heard the phrase "death by a thousand cuts?" Or, "the straw that broke the camel's back?" The vibe I get is this is something that might fester over time.

I'm going to assume you aren't interested in things like an open relationship. Most folks aren't, likely even fewer still can really handle that. It's just as likely doing that could result in the deterioration of the relationship.

It could be unhappy, and there can be a trajectory that won't correct itself on it's own.

As an example, my parents have been married for decades. I know, doesn't seem as common these days. My father is not particularly religious. My mother is, though not extremely so. She volunteers a lot at her church, but doesn't think she's going to hell if she misses a service every now and then.

Either way, neither consider divorce an option. They argue with alarming frequency and I cringe at the thought of holiday meetings or road trips together. He's intelligent and intellectual but kind of absent minded. She's more detail oriented and is the only one who really does house chores. He has tried to help, but it never seems quite good enough. So either he just doesn't do it at all, or waits until she's out of the house. He snores, she's a light sleeper. He has a broad, top-down worldly view and is interested in broad concepts like politics, history, and math, and understands the world isn't a fair place. She's more interested in inter-personal relationships and despite her age, seems to continue having a certain naivete and certain romantic dreams that are impractical.

I do love them both, but they are as different as night and day. They haven't slept together in the same room in many years, and basically don't do it anymore. He watches porn alone, she just does without.

To be fair, both of them could have done far, far worse. But I hate that paradigm and mentality of "it could always be worse" and "it is what it is." That only justifies mediocrity, "satisficing" (portmanteau of satisfy and suffice, a very sub-optimal outcome), or if the overall situation (in anything) is ever so slightly worse than it was before.

I could be wrong, but I expect most couples would have likely seriously considered divorce by now, and would likely result in divorce on good terms.

Either way, I'm about 99% sure you don't want an outcome like this.

It's true marriage rates in America, and so far as I can tell, most of the western world are lower than they used to be before, and occurring later in life. But know what else is going on? The marriages that do form tend to have higher rates of satisfaction.

I've also found that sure, while people can change, they also really don't.. at least not after age 16, 18 or so. One's sense of right and wrong, personality traits, agreeableness, willingness to compromise, friendliness, etc. are largely fixed and static by that point.

If you can't find some way to reach compromise soon, I don't expect that to be possible 5 years from now.