ChubbyDiana:
But I did struggle for a while, the first 30lbs were shocking. But I feel like once I crossed into being properly fat I stopped caring and just enjoyed my new body.
I think this is pretty common. Once people get "over the hump" they learn: people's reactions aren't as severe as they feared; overeating is more fun than ever; they like the extra weight (or at least the upsides outweight the downsides); and losing the weight is not a serious option.
It's just hard to figure out how much you need to gain to get over the hump or whether there is a hump until you get there. I think 30 pounds is pretty common. Maybe that's a good question for a new thread...
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Ah yes, the Point of No Return. I don't think that's based on absolute weight so much as 1) your own metabolism 2) your eating habits 3) how much you like gaining 4) how much you like being bigger.
I chatted with one woman who wanted to go from 130 to 180 pounds. She was having trouble gaining, so she finally started stuffing herself to the point she couldn't take a deep breath. Every day! At that point she started gaining and got up to 180 in a few months. She quit stuffing herself like that then but her appetite had gotten so good she kept gaining without trying to. When I chatted with her she weighed 300 pounds and was still gaining. She couldn't stop.
So she probably reached the Point of No Return before she was even fat!
Another woman planned to gain 25 pounds and stop there. So she did gain 25 pounds, and maybe could have stopped there, but found that she LOVED it. She didn't want to stop, and decided to simply let herself go, figuring that limits didn't work for her.
Of course, some people gain and do lose it, or at least find a final weight they're comfortable with.
In short, once you decide to gain on purpose and start doing it, it's very hard to predict where you're going to end up. Just accept that there's a chance you'll get bigger than you want (of course that can happen even if you never gain on purpose!). If you're worried but still want to do it, just take it slow. You can stuff yourself on junk food now and then--I mean, that's probably part of the fun, right? But eat healthy the rest of the time.
4 years
GainingLear:
Add to that how much easier to find fetish content of any type and we start getting into this much sooner than we used to. Consider how hard it was to even find dimensions back in the day versus trying to find this site or curvage today.
No kidding! I came of age in the 60s and 70s...I never even heard of feedism (aka feederism) until the 80s. I knew I had feedist tendencies and assumed there were others like me but really didn't know for many years. I did see a "Hilda" calendar in a car-repair shop back in the 60s (was tempted to steal it but settled for trying to brain-download as much of it as possible) so I at least knew there were others who appreciated curvy women.
4 years
1. Take some pics in clothes that fit in several different poses which show different angles of your body, ideally including face photos and photos that show your entire body. Pose with a pile of food you're starting to binge on that you expect to be able to finish.
2. Gain a noticeable amount of weight--at least 10% of your initial weight.
3. Take pics of all the poses you did in step #1 in the same clothes, which will now be tighter. Also take some of yourself in clothes that fit now that you expect to grow out of. Pose with the same pile of food you pose with before, plus some extra food if your capacity has increased.
4. Gain a noticeable amount of weight--at least 10% of what you weighed in the previous photo session.
5. Take pics of all the poses you did in the previous photo session in the same clothes, which will now be tighter. Also take some of yourself in clothes that fit now that you expect to grow out of. Pose with the same pile of food you posed with before, plus some extra food if your capacity has increased.
6. Repeat steps 4 and 5 as many times as you wish.
4 years
Fattymaker4:
Hey everyone!! I've been gaining so much in the last year from 190 in March 2021 to 250 by December 2021. I'm now stuck at 250 and anything I eat or do does not work. I'm not stuck at this number. Any advise to help fatten me up again?
Go on a crash diet and lose 10-15 pounds, then start gaining again. The regain is always faster and more intense than the initial gain, and you'll gain past your previous peak.
4 years
There are feedees who gain, decide they don't like it and lose. I haven't run into many of them, but I wouldn't expect to--they're unlikely to show up on sites like this one.
4 years
At least a 10% gain, probably a bit more.
4 years
AskDrFeeder:
That's a good point. As more people--feedist or not--get fat there's less of a stigma about it.
greentrees8733:
I dunno if I’d relate stigma change *directly* to obesity rates. I think stigma change relates more to explicit efforts to reduce stigma, like social movements (eg body positivity, body neutrality). But I think there’s probably a second-hand relationship in that as more people become overweight and obese, more people realize the need to change fatphobia/fat stigma.
Originally, I was trying to link our *perceptions* of what’s normal to rising feedee weights.
Of course, our perception of normal is also heavily influenced by media, including social media.
I guess my speculation is that *our*—as in the feedist community’s—sense of what constitutes being fat or really fat changes with overall rates plus what the community shares, while other people are more influenced by media portrayal.
Again, all of this is speculation
I'm pretty sure all these things are factors that contribute to one another. But yeah, pretty speculative at this point.
4 years
DEAR ABBY: I have a wonderful 31-year-old son who is in a relationship with a lovely young woman. It's likely they'll be married in a year or two. They work hard in their careers and enjoy good food and wine, and I'm happy for them both.
I've noticed, however, that over the last year my son has steadily put on weight and is having some trouble with his complexion. I'm concerned that he has acquired the habit of overindulging himself and that, over time, he will continue gaining weight and drinking too much. His girlfriend looks great -- she manages her weight very well.
I know my observations will be unwelcome, so I don't share them with him. I think it's the right choice, but it's really hard to hold back. We do discuss health in general, as it's a mutual interest, but that's as far as it goes. His father passed away a few years ago, so, sadly, he's not around to share my concerns with. What should I do? -- TREADING LIGHTLY IN NEW HAMPSHIRE
DEAR TREADING LIGHTLY: You are a caring parent. But your son is well into adulthood, and I don't think involving yourself in his weight problem would be well received. Many people (of both sexes) have put on weight over the last two years as a result of the pandemic. Because of that, you could encourage him to get a physical. If you do, his doctor might talk to him about his weight gain.
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