MissG:
I've chatted with a few people who say they would love to see me slim down and then they be the one to fatten me.
Just curious how common this is.
Do those of you who approach this as a Dom like your sun's fatness to be caused by you? Is it sorta an ownership/clean slate thing?
I'm not a dom or a sub (sorry to sneak into this forum) and the idea that the gain was caused by me is not important. What I like is that the gain is more dramatic if the feedee starts out slim. Fat to fatter is fine, but thin to fat or thin to fatter is incredible.
So I'd prefer that my feedee start out slim or average-sized, but asking her to lose weight seems like a hell of an ask! I wouldn't do that.
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...are you happier now than before you gained? Why? Or why not?
3 years
Try losing ten pounds or so. People usually gain back more than they lost.
3 years
PlusSize52:
1) What changed that made things easier?
2) How much weight did you have to gain to get there?
For me, I have been wanting to gain for a long time but social pressure made me hesitant to jump in. Then the pandemic hit. Working from home had an impact on my weight. I did not know how much at first because I didn’t keep a scale at home. It was seeing my weight at the doctor’s just over 200 pounds that sparked something. For me, that was the heaviest I have ever been, and I loved it. Seeing that number made me think, this is all right… what if I ate just a little more on purpose? From there, it became a need, and while I’ve taken breaks between active and more passive gaining, I wouldn’t change a thing. I’m over the hump and loving it.
Great story! How about the social pressure? Were your fears of it worse than the reality? Or did you love gaining so much you didn't care?
3 years
Many feedees are very conflicted at first but less so after they get "over the hump," that is, after they gain a certain amount. Maybe they realize their fears about gaining were exaggerated, maybe they've reached the point where others in their lives have given up nagging them about their weight, maybe their love for overeating has become dominant...I guess there are lots of possible reasons. It occurs to me it might help feedees who are just starting out (or thinking about it) to hear about the hump.
So if you've gone over the hump in this way:
1) What changed that made things easier?
2) How much weight did you have to gain to get there?
3) Has there been more than one hump? If so please answer 1) and 2) for each one.
3 years
I'm not a feedee but I'll jump in anyway. I like functional goals, for example:
1) When you gain weight quickly and become a bit clumsier because you aren't used to your new weight and size, and start bumping into things with your hips and such.
2) I'm conflicted over people gaining so much that it's crippling--even if it's kind of hot I'd feel bad for you. But if it's a _bit_ of a struggle to get out of chairs or climb stairs or walk much faster than a waddle, if it's almost impossible to run, that's cute AF.
3) Appetite goals...if you used to have trouble finishing a cheeseburger with fries and now two quarter-pounder with cheese meals aren't enough, that's amazing.
4) Shamelessness--you used to be too shy to overeat in public. But now you love eating so much that you don't care, or at least don't let it slow you down.
Any one else have such goals?
3 years
There are lots of things people like about getting fat, but let's focus on the eating part for a moment. Assuming you've gained weight on purpose:
1. Is the freedom to eat all you want part of the fun? What percent?
2. Has your capacity increased since you've gained? Is that part of the fun? What percent? And do you enjoy that more and more as you get bigger and your capacity increases?
3 years
Some people do reach a weight they're comfortable with and stop there. But they usually find other things they want to do. If all you have in your life is weight-gain I suspect it'll never be enough.
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