milkshakeandfries:
Disagree. I could gain a hundred pounds and still want to gain more but choose to maintain that level and a certain level of fitness because I value my mobility and my partner's flexibility more. I don't think that makes me less of a feedee
AskDrFeeder:
I would argue that even if you choose to STOP gaining at some point you've still gained what you want. Gaining what you want doesn't mean gaining without limit, it means gaining until you don't want to gain anymore. For whatever reason.
milkshakeandfries:
Again I have to disagree. Say I want to be 500 pounds; that's my goal weight. But for any reason I have to stop gaining, maybe significantly before then, 350, for instance.
What you're saying here is I shouldn't bother gaining to 350 if I'm not going to go all in and gain to 500.
Why do you ask for people's opinions if you're just going to tell them that they're wrong when they disagree?
I said people should gain what they want, not that they can't change what they want.
3 years
AskDrFeeder:
If you're not going to gain as much as you want there's no point in gaining at all.
(Just spit-balling here--comments welcome)
hopeless fatty:
So… if I can’t fully commit, I shouldn’t do it at all? It’s so hard… I’ve had my eye on some 50” pants for a while now, but… I don’t think I can even take those first steps. 😔
There’s so much to consider:
- my faith (this is a totally selfish decision, but I seek to be selfless - this would make me less effective in my service to others)
- relationships (i don’t want to be alone, and i also want to be a good partner to a potential spouse and a good parent to any potential children - what if this led me to miss out on all of those things?)
- mobility (i like roller coasters and theme parks - i still want to be able to do that)
You just have to gain what you want, not MORE than you want.
3 years
milkshakeandfries:
Disagree. I could gain a hundred pounds and still want to gain more but choose to maintain that level and a certain level of fitness because I value my mobility and my partner's flexibility more. I don't think that makes me less of a feedee
I would argue that even if you choose to STOP gaining at some point you've still gained what you want. Gaining what you want doesn't mean gaining without limit, it means gaining until you don't want to gain anymore. For whatever reason.
3 years
If you're not going to gain as much as you want there's no point in gaining at all.
(Just spit-balling here--comments welcome)
3 years
newenglander:
Sounds a lot like a cruise vacation. The best part is you'll never see the same people again so there's no shame in overindulgence.
Only those who DIDN'T overindulge would be shamed.
3 years
Explorer463:
So this whole college thing is cool and all, and watching the freshman 15 happen to people is certainly interesting. But it's legitimately agonizing to think that somewhere at this school, there's a feedee who's gaining for the first time in her life and I don't know about her. Anyone have advice on figuring out who might be into this in one's local area?
Feabie might be your best bet.
3 years
I like a good analog one, no batteries needed and easy to read. E.g.
www.hammacher.com/product/easy-read-analog-scaleDigital may be better for electronically tracking your gain, but I have my doubts. You either have to fuss with a clunky, small-device user interface that will probably lose all your data when the batteries fail, or deal with connectivity problems if you find a bluetooth device. I find it easier to log things in a notebook.
3 years
Another goal would be to get fat enough that people who haven't seen you in awhile are shocked.
3 years
