“The researchers also examined past studies of overeating, in which people gorged on food to see how much weight they gained and how quickly, and found that most of them added pounds at a rate that suggested they could absorb about two and a half times their basic caloric needs. That is, participants might swallow more calories, but their bodies could not process anything beyond that limit.”

Pushing the Limits of Human Endurance
www.nytimes.com/2019/06/12/well/move/pushing-the-limits-of-human-endurance.html

For me as as an enabler it’s simply a case of having to eat along, or at least get her going. So I’ve definitely gone up in weight. And then now when I look I think "well....that’s not bad.....I could see myself following her along"

Family is too small and too dispersed for that but for our "life long" friends I tend to up the calorie count.

One of our (single, female) friends has a petite body on which any gain looks good. I always do "something nice" for her; bring a mocca coffee with a box of donuts and a cream cheese bagel. A "No thanks, I had one and it's a lot after my big breakfast" later she's left with at least 5-6 left over donuts in the box.

It's a thing with people a certain age, twice so when they're from a rural community.

On my dad's side they descended from farmers, were still living in that region, and no matter how I looked I was always too thin. Two bit hot meals a day as if we were still plowing the land. By hand. Without tools. And then when I could barely finish my plate dessert would come out, tempting as hell.

Old thread but oh well.

In supermarkets etc I like to give a fat woman a nice appreciative look. I like for her to feel sexy or wanted.

It's no emancipated to think so but I think it must be a good feeling, sometimes, for a woman if she notices she's appreciated, found beautiful or sexy. Not in a dirty man look kind of way, I get that, and not in a cat calling way but in a "I turn heads" kind of way.

Stopping is hard, as many people who want to lose weight can tell you. There's the body's setpoint that says "hey, you have to be eating X amount of calories now or I'll dial everything down so you'll gain even if you eat less." There's the higher amount of calories your body wants just to maintain.

Although it can be less sexy maybe, less perverse maybe, I think gaining over the long time is much more sustainable.

You're 275 now and want to be 350 tops. Stuff like crazy and get there in 1-2 years...or eat just a bit more than needed gaining 5-10 lbs per year and you're having fun the next 15 or 7 years.

Weight gain has upper limits. If it was easy to drop down and do it all over again who cares, but it's not easy. So, make it last as long as possible.

I know what you mean. I generally connect better with women than with men, and since discovering this feeder/FA side of me I'm able to connect with some women in a way that seems to give them permission to be(come) fat. And in return they're thankful for it.

Maybe. Of course there is much more to the relationship dynamics than I post here.

A couple of years ago she went from 220 to 250 lbs as she had food "for the last time" before her diet. She did a diet and really stuck to it, going down as far as 185 lbs. But she loves the food and cannot or does not want to put in the effort of maintaining a diet, so she went up again.

No, I like to keep her obese, BMI of 34 at the moment, and make her happy with being treated like a queen.

welcome ALittleBigger & usagi898

Gluttony can be a sin. So can be divorce. Or eating pork. Not handling your periods the proper way. The Old Testament has a bunch of rules which were given in reply to a specific demand (later on there would be a demand for Judges), and were given to the Jewish nation.

For both Messanic Jews and other Christians the New Testament brought a new law, or a new version of the law. A more detailed one so to say. It continues the line set out in earlier in the Bible that we are sinful and that we can be saved by Grace only - full stop. So on your best day on your best behavior you're still not living up to not being sinful because not being sinful means being perfect. And you're not. I'm not. We're not. That's why we need God's grace; without it, we cannot repair or change the gap between perfect and imperfect.

Whenever the law specialists would bring out the law, Jesus would say "oh really? So what's in your heart then? Are you doing the law or doing the spirit of the law?"

In the spirit of the law eating pork can be OK for a Jewish believer and is always 100% OK for non-Jewish Christians, regardless of what it says in the Old Testamanet.

In the same vain I believe that God has made it possible to enjoy these beautiful things; from the combination of tones (music) to the joy of fattening someone up. I certainly didn't come up with these things; they are in me, they are part of my nature.

If they are bad they are no better or worse than any other sin; the Bible knows no "small" vs "big" sins. Imperfect is imperfect. I can't make things perfect. I can't make these ideas and feelings go away; not acting on them doesn't make them less sinful if they are. I can only rely on God's grace to accept me for who I am and to love me for who I am. I know I need not fear because if there is anything to pay towards that sin, it's been paid by God.

As a Christian you accepted God and God accepts you how you are, unconditionally. I guess the hardest part is for us to do so ourselves.