i had an experience like this just last night!

my partner em and i went out to dinner with my ex, diane, and her boyfriend. long story short: diane and i split amicably when i moved away for work/family. we text/email very occasionally but haven't seen each other in quite a while.

when i met diane she was already a big woman - well over 400 lbs (maybe 450? i can't remember now). she gained to something like 500 lbs in the couple of years we were together. likewise, i gained from 160ish to maybe 250 lbs during that time. it was my first experience being "fat."

we broke up just as i moved and as the pandemic started. this is where our stories diverge. i continued to work through the pandemic, but i was working from home. i was also getting almost no physical activity! as a result, i piled on weight during that first year of the pandemic.

then i met my current partner, who likes fat guys. and i put on another 60 lbs over that year, and i am bigger than i ever expected, at about 400 lbs!

meanwhile, during the pandemic diane took another path. she started dating her current bf who happened to be a personal trainer. so she started to eat better and get more exercise, and started to lose weight.

yesterday i realized that the tables really had turned! we didn't talk about our weights, but it was obvious that she has lost a bunch of weight - and that i am the fat one now!

diane clearly thought this was hilarious, and commented on how it was obvious how i got so big based on what i ordered at the restaurant.

there are so many posts about "how do i get x type of body" but it's almost all due to genetics, unfortunately.

it's amazing to me how many of us wish we had a different kind of body. even bodybuilder friends of mine, who have crazy big, muscular, comic hero physiques, complain about aspects of their bodies... their back, their calves, their forearms, etc...

my moobs certainly grew when i put on weight, but they aren't as noticeable as some of the guys i see here. my weight is mostly around my middle, mostly belly and butt. and there's not much i can do about that! so i just enjoy what i got.

so this is the chat now, huh?

getting back on topic, there is another great weight gain comic on deviant arts by annonnxyz called revenge...

deviantart.com/annonnxyz/gallery/73076564/revenge

it is over a hundred pages, and if you like ponderous woman you will probably really enjoy this too.

too funny - what issue did he have with it? and on that topic - it has been unusually quiet and reasonable around here lately. did he get banned or something?

i think the previous responses have lots of great things to consider. the fact that you care about each other and respect each other is huge - by far the most important thing. anyone who puts "feeder fantasy" ahead of that is, in my mind, not a person worth partnering with.

you are also young, according to your profile anyway. and so i will leave this additional info to consider: you are going to change, and so is your partner. i have been involved in the fetish of feedism in several different capacities over my whole adult like - like, more than 20 years. things are much different, and i am much different than i was 20 year ago. or even 10 years ago. my views have changed, my desires have changed. i still appreciate the same things, but my relationship to my partner and to the fetish is different now. and i imagine it will continue to change as time goes on.

which is all to say, don't take any of this too hard or two much to heart. understanding and compassion and love rule, all this other stuff is much easier to find a compromise about. and with luck you will both find other things (kinks, etc.) that you will bond over - i certainly have, even now well into my 40s.

best of luck to you both!

only if your name is hansel.

yes! that is a classic - probably the best i have heard. it is still there, though it has not been updated in almost 5 years.

highly recommended!

i don't know about the rest of you, but when i have way too much of something (oil, grease, dairy, etc.) it just makes me feel crummy and negatively effects my regularity (i shall say no more on the subject to avoid tmi!).

for me the enjoyment of food and the lifestyle is what brought on weight. if i had to eat a bunch of sub-par stuff i don't think it would have held my interest and enthusiasm to get to this size, frankly.

you can get fat eating good food, too!

hey, the next lockdown happens tomorrow. my partner and i will be going out tonight in toronto as a last chance kind of thing. just dinner and drinks. if you are interested to join in toronto, send me a dm!