this is a one-way ticket for harassment and stalking so no

if the disgust/shame has a specific thought tied to it such as "omg this is so gross, my body looks terrible, why did I do this" then that's a sign of internalized fatphobia. Still it's not uncommon to have a general sensation of shame simply for pleasing yourself at all, and that's just more about self-esttem and confidence overall and not feeling like you deserve to have that kind of pleasure.

But if the disgust or shame feels more physical, like "wow I literally just splooged on myself, I need a shower, it'd be so embarrassing if someone saw" then I think that's just normal post-nut clarity.

honestly there is no "making up your mind" I think. If you doubt whether or not you want to gain, then there's your answer. if you want to, you know.

Grammar and spellcheck already existed long before mass-market access to AI.

AI isn't a grammar tool. It can only function by scraping existing writing created by other humans. Even if you clean it up after, it is still theft. It's not reinterpretation or meta or research. AI is theft of work. AI cannot exist without a reserve of existing material. That's literally how it works.

You're absolutely right that there is no shortcut to sincere creativity, but it's mutually exclusive to AI generated writing.

This isn't weird or uncommon at all!! There are LOTS of dom-types out there who are into this exact kind of play and content.

Heck, I'm the kind of sub who likes the more overt (not degrading) type of play and still love some fun praise, soft-dom, dumpling interaction thrown in.

If you're struggling to connect with others who can give you this experience, two things to consider:

1) interrogate *your* desires. This doesn't mean judge yourself for it, but get to the root of *why* they turn your crank so much. Such as is it the nurturing and care that appeals to you? Is it that someone else is doing the mental load of considering your diet? Are you a words of affirmation person and thrive on praise and compliments? All of the above? The motivation that underlies it can really help you have productive conversations with prospective doms and play partners!

2) Always important to remember that D/s is an *exchange* of trust - both parties should have an active interest in pleasing the other in ways they *both* find pleasurable (eg the common ground and overlap of what I mentioned in point 1). Lots of people think they are "doms" but are just abusive, fatphobic, toxic buttwipes. If you get the vibe that you aren't being heard or seen as a person, always nope out. Every time!

I Looooove blackmail stories. They do quite a number on me!

every single site with membership on the planet has a TOS (essentially code of conduct, some are smart enough to label them clearly) and it doesn't mean anything at the end of the day when owners prioritize revenue over safety.

I'm not exaggerating when I say one day someone will be unalived because of the behavior that is *encouraged* by these sites collectively. Not one more than another another, they are all different and yet the result will be the same.

It's a systemic issue that starts from the outside in. It's patriarchy, misogyny, fatphobia, ableism, racism, etc., that people can and will gleefully engage in to get whatever they want, regardless of who it harms, and especially if they can do so without consequence (eg harassing, objectifying, impersonating, and profiting off of fat people).

that is to say, people gotta work on this stuff and handle it whenver they see it in real life outside of here and places like this.

it's a constant struggle D:

I'm mostly into indie horror (Phasmophobia, The Mortuary Assistant, Demonologist, etc) but have been playing Palia daily lol. I love the Sims and Tetris as well!

just a heads up to anyone responding to this person - it's clearly fake/a bot/mulitple accounts as there are other nearly-identical posts on this forum. I already sent screenshots to the team to report it, but be discerning!!