PhoenixChimera:
Firstly, I wish you the very best as you recover.
I used to have some very bad habits which I’m glad to say are no more.
The mind is so powerful, but when that power is working against you it can feel overwhelming which won’t make anyone feel their best.
You may not feel it now, but that doesn’t mean you never will, hold on to hope.

tongueoncheek:
i'm kinda in the same boat as you OP, recovering from an ED and years of hsting my body.

what helped me was not thinking that much about how i look, and not insulting myself. i've worked on accepting and loving myself, it does take work (you're changing some deep-set pathways in ur brain!). an example would be to just shut down, hush, disregard or counter-attack negative self talk.
other thing is to know that everyone is beautiful in some way and to someone. yeah, sounds like old, overused crab, but it's true. you see those "ugly" couples, holding hands? they're beautiful to each other, in love and happy. you're beautiful enough, good enough and so much more than sinply your body.

though there's also a kind of stigma around fat, things like "fat people are lazy and have no self control". replace "fat people" with "i" and you have what i told myself in the past after gaining 200 grams.
this kinda thinking serves no purpose, it just makes people miserable. enjoying food isn't a moral failing! it's actually the other purpose of food, the first being nutrition, obviously.

sorry this is long and probably rambly, i'm just passionate about this. in short, learn not to think mean things about yourself and learn not to care about what strangers think of you
(easier said than done )

becomingoverweight:
Do you like the soft squishiness of your belly at all?

oinkxoink:
I’m the same way! I love other fat people, but I can’t seem to love myself. Here’s what helps me sometimes though. As cheesy as it sounds, it is a gift to even have a functioning body in the first place. Start by just thanking your body for working properly. Your body is perfect just because it exists.

John Smith:
If you don't feel comfortable with your body, then lose some weight. Plain simple.

Heavier woman can still choose to done cosmetic surgery or waist-training, but what's the relevance about a male gainer to shed his fat belly? If you don't like it, then get rid of it.

gainerboi:
I understand that they didn't want medical advice - which none of us can give - but that doesn't justify this response...

John Smith:
He either asked for an advice or more delusional encouragement to his own self-pitying fat-shaming. I'm not a fan of useless lies.

If that person doesn't feel well about its own appareance, therefore we have to talk about the solution/s.