Ohh, goodness, why do people do this?!

I initially read the title as "sarcastic feeder" rather than "sadistic feeder", which would have been hilarious.

Sadly, we're on different continents, but you seem very, very fun.

Censorship is abuse. Very *very* serious abuse.

Not a kink or fetish as such - but I really go for people who are especially conscientious.

Very best wishes of the pudding season to one and all!

This definitely deserves cake. Lots of cake.

Ghosts getting spooked - pun intended?

I think that some people are perhaps into more extreme gains than others. Dealing with health consequences is much more of an issue for the more extreme gains. Going from thin or average to somewhat plump is much less of an issue, especially if one takes regular exercise and eats well generally.

I have had this really quite a lot - even discounting the scammers.

This seems to be the almost inevitable outcome of nearly every interaction here and on similar sites.

I had one person here a few months ago who took a lot of effort to contact me (kept missing me in chat) - we eventually started talking off site very regularly and intensely (every day), and then she suddenly deleted her 3-year-old account here and the app that she used to message me. And it wasn't that doing so was in response to anything in particular that I had just done - the last message that I had sent was a photograph of a river on my walk home - and she replied before deleting.

There have been other instances, too - including a person ghosting mid-conversation in the chat, and standing me up for a third date (years ago; this was also someone who contacted me first) - and then contacting me a year later.

The trouble is that, because the ghosters, by definition, do not stay around, we very rarely know their motivation.

Is taking the plunge what you really want to do? That you are asking the question here suggests that that you already have an idea of what you want the answer to be, but, ultimately, only you can make the decision.