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butthurt scams?
Yep. Not sure how "Actively participate in holding men accountable and set an example" comes out to "sit this one out" but that's what happens when people expect to be rewarded for performance ...

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butthurt scams?
doing your part means not blaming and mansplainign to women about what we ~should~ do.

If you do your part, you don't need to announce and quantify it. You'd just do it.

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butthurt scams?
I wasn't mistaken. I literally quoted you saying that women needed to start calling them out. Do you know why we don't?

1) they are never punished anyway; we are not the ones with the power to ...

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butthurt scams?
No. It is not womens' job to hold men accountable for shitty behavior. That is the job of other men. To set the example and publicly hold them accountable.

There is PLENTY on this forum righ...

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recommendations for pantyhose/ tights
Does your wife have any idea or consented to you coming on to a website for fetishists talking about how you engage in the fetish with her?

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need someone to write a story for me
writing something—especially to spec—costs a lot more resources than you think. if you can't pay, then you don't "need" anyone to do anything for you.

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person you would love to feed/see fat
A+ for cuppajoe!!!

Fetishizing fatness and toxic fat phobia overlap a LOT. We should always be aware of this so we can engage with the content and our preferences responsibly. And that includes...

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word processors
This is how I revise! I write/draft in one font and revise and edit in another.

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word processors
I use Scrivener. You can get a 30-day trial and I think the license is $50 for life after that. Worth every penny. There is a bit of a learning curve but it's like riding a bike and once you got it...

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any girls into stuffing but not gaining?
my whole brand of feedism is that it's casual and based on a dynamic rather than results. I'm at the size I want to be and don't want it to change. Fantasizing, playing around with it in the bedroo...

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is fat sex dangerous?
Penises can in fact be broken! https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/sexual-health/expert-answers/penis-fracture/faq-20058154

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can you curb your feederism urges?
"she" is right here

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can you curb your feederism urges?
Oh spare me. I wasn't implying intent. I was literally explaining that "this can be harmful language and maybe we should try to find another"

the fact that you are taking it personally and choo...

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can you curb your feederism urges?
Firstly - probably best to let them answer instead of you guessing

secondly, you are choosing to misunderstand the point I clearly indicated. Comparing a kink to sexual orientation diminishe...

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i'm starting an advice column...
Most may know me as an erotica writer, but I also write essays on topics related to *gestures* all of this. Dating, socializing, social issues, intersectionality, etc. Readers often reach out to me...

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tight shirt or loose shirt over belly
that's not how bras work... they go around your ribcage... which definitely does not have your stomach in it where the band rests.

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medication safety?
Just because a drug is most commonly used in certain situations does not mean it is intended only for those situations. Sometimes you will be prescribed something that seems way out of left field b...

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can you curb your feederism urges?
As someone who is both queer and a feedist, I strongly disagree with feedism being "hardwired into your sexuality" because that is just... not how that works.

A kink is what feedism is for me. ...

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where do we draw the line?
That just simply boils down to kink negotiation. It's literally just about consent and limits and boundaries and who is okay with fantasy and reality mixing and when and where. Not having that conv...