Tentacles:
How many people do you think keep this within the realm of fantasy vs actually gain?

Munchies:
Depends on what you mean by reality vs fantasy. I used to gain, but I would fantasize about sizes I would never achieve.

Meanwhile, I am actively making my feedee very fat, but I've accepted he might be unable to reach some of the sizes (600 lbs - 700 lbs) that we've fantasized over.

Tentacles:
The issue I see with gaining is the lack of an endpoint isn't the process kinda the point rather than the end goal.

Reflection Of Perfection:
If you read enough profiles you'll see "serious feeders only" in quite a few of them with links to various paysites or cashapp/PayPal.

AndrogChubb:
The hardest part for me is wanting her so badly and knowing that even if we did reconnect, I’m very limited when it comes to sex and all that. I just feel like most women, her included, would be unhappy with me in the long term since I’m unable to please in that way anymore.

Jiggle Junkie:
Unless your life goal is to get with a whole wide swath of many women, it’s likely “most women” doesn’t apply to the situation. All it takes is one (or two or a few or whatever for us poly folks).

In 2019 i had life-saving prostate surgery with a side effect that eliminated my ability to ejaculate during orgasm. To a certain percentage of women who enjoy penis cum, this rendered me sexually dead/worthless (and i had to totally re-learn orgasms, but that’s a digression). Had to look on the bright side and do a little re-branding: All of the hardness, none of the mess! For some potential lovers, that might be a feature rather than a bug. Focus on what you still have and any advantages, rather than losses.

Further, there’s sooooooo much more to sex and sensuality than genitals! You may get with someone so excited by your fat/other aspects of your body/you that the genital situation won’t matter, or will be a very minor consideration.

SmugWendy:
-My BMI allows early access for vaccine boosters
-I have the capacity to eat more of the things I love
-I float more easily than skinny or muscular people
-I could survive longer in a famine
-I never sit in the back seat of a car
-Jiggly-ness 😄

Beni:
I got all my vaccines early due to my obesity as well. I am happy to have all those vaccines right now because I just tested positive for covid yesterday and the only symptoms I have are those of a cold.

Cat:
What are some perks of being fat?

Frogman:
It lowers your risk of being kidnapped.
(I stole that one, but it’s accurate.)

Spike:
You sure? Because my experience of 1291 days says otherwise. Fat people are JUST as easily kidnappable . :/ Petpeeve when people say tis but i guess when you lost four years of your life to being held hostage then its understandable.

Jiggle Junkie:
I’m in the Not My Thing club too. When i first encountered the concept with that term, i too was thinking WTF?

Then i thought about it.

Not only is there the issue of bodily autonomy, even if that means dramatically shortening one’s life, in the 2020s the world is a pretty messed up place. I’m not at all sure that if i continue trying to live a life focused on longevity with high functioning that it will be in any way meaningful, if the world wholly goes to shit, societies melt down, and many/most/all areas wind up in primal survival mode with few or no functioning social services, utilities, potable water, social stability (e.g. crime/true anarchy) that my aiming for long-term makes any sense. Who am i to judge if some people have concluded that the world won’t be there for them anyway, so whyTF not take things to an extreme?

I’ve been actively suicidal in my past. Death Feedism has never been my path for a number of reasons, but for someone else? I can see it.

Do i want to help?
No.

Do i live and let live, as long as the death feedists and those who may be working with them accept full responsibility for any outcomes of their actions/choices?
Yes.

There’s a truly outstanding piece of fat lit that i feel is related to this (its author may disagree): Meatier, by ShrubberyLogistic. It’s a single-installment short story that shouldn’t take too much of anyone’s time. But do pay attention, because leaving the reader to figure out what is going on is core to the story.

MrWhite:
I believe the reason why is because of my childhood. As a kid growing up with an abusive father, a lot of the affection that I received while I was young was from bigger people and in my head I began to associate fatness with love.

I can recall the time I got a hug from my math teacher in the 3rd grade. She was an incredibly big woman, at least 450lbs. It was like hugging a cloud and when she wrapped her fluffly arms around little kid me. Well I was changed forever lol

VsyaVlastSovetom:
You left him just because he lost 20 lbs even tho he's gained nearly a 100 and he enabled you as well? Just because of his desire to lose, greao justified anyways given that he was not a feedee. Jesus thats cold hearted. Did you even try to support his decision. Or made him feel bad about it. Maybe he ate Łk after to compensate. Think about it, you were probably his only gf. Not only did you enable him, being responsible for his gain. But you also ended up not appreciating his gains and leaving him. Damn girl.