Firstly: congratulations if you can keep it down easily in reasonable direct quantities!

On to the realistic expectations and what I've learned from my wife's use of it for gaining.

Re your goal: yes i imagine so, we’ve done 12lbs in 34days without too much of an extreme approach

Re tips:

1) consider what is digested and what passes through. Spread out your amount (we added 1 1/2 pt of double cream a day) throughout a number of meals to ensure its not literally going down the drain. Cream sauces, small additions to a number of cups of coffee and chai, cream based deserts (she loves eton mess with fresh whipped double cream and white sugar), cream in dinner sides like potatoes dauphinois etc etc. you can easily add a full 2pt a day which is adding a serious amount of kcal a day.

2) don’t accidentally end up on keto. Make sure there are a lot of carbs and a good amount of simple sugar in your diet as well. Ive known failed gainers to smash the steaks and cream shakes but forget the carbs. The body will go in to ketosis which will inhibit your gain.

3) give it at least 2 weeks as your body adjusts to digesting it and keep it up. We had little success on the first try as we expected going up to 2.5x your requires calories would cause her to bloom straight away. It wasn't until the 2nd time that we spread it out and gave it 6weeks. She got some fantastic stretch marks on that round.

4) don't expect it to be smooth sailing; just because day 1 went ok doesn't mean your GI tract will be happy tomorrow with the same barrage of fat and lactose.

Cant think of much else.

Good luck and happy gaining.

Under!

Depends what for:

To look at I like her lower belly, especially when it hangs below her tshirts.

To touch, her inner thighs just below her most intimate parts.

To rest on, inner part of her upper arm.

Strongly depends on what your parents are like in general.

My parents were both professional sports people and neither have ever been overweight. Ive had 3 obese partners including my ex wife and current wife.

There were teething issues, however I've always held my ground.

If you ensure that you draw clear boundaries in your relationship with your parents and you are clear in your commitment to your partner, then you are far less likely to experience voiced opposition to your choice of partner based on aesthetics.

Don’t get me wrong, your friends and family should feel free to voice justified concerns to you in private if they have knowledge of anything that may negatively affect you in a relationship; but aesthetics, non toxic life choices etc etc, should be beyond the acceptable line of conversation.

One thing that can help is not being purely fetishised in your relationship. If you focus on the other things that attract you to your S/O then others are more likely to see it too. I imagine there’s a whole lot more than just your partner’s looks that you find bonding in your relationship: hobbies, politics, philosophies, interests. The more that friends and family see the whole picture, the less focus there is on the bits they might not find relatable like your more niche preferences.

Ive been on the other end as an FA in a relationship with a larger woman who did not like her body and did not like (unless she had been out drinking) her stomach or ass being touched in bed. It didn't end well unfortunately.

I have a friend/remove cousin who is more similar to your situation. She likes being “thicc” loves eating, is a chef by trade but her long term husband although very passive in nature is just not that in to it and she complains all the time about it.

They unfortunately rely on each other for visas (him so he can work in Canada, her so she can work in Ireland and they do enjoy each others company just (according to her) not so
much in bed.

From what I hear, in her lower moments, the lack of being lusted after by her husband does cause a knock to her confidence and she over compensates. Shes never been unfaithful, but when she came to visit us 3 years ago without him, all she wanted to do was dress up and go out and day drink at a number of bars she had listed then really indulge at restaurants with us on evenings [I felt like a total failure of an FA and table captain at a steak house when I realised id significantly under ordered for the 3 of us]

Long and short, it depends on what else is going on and how important to you and to him the physical aspects, kinks included, are to you both as individuals and as partners.

Sure, go For it

[quote]TheBoarInside:
1. Do you consider gaining more of a fetish or need?
2. How much have you gained (on purpose)?
3. What's your weight goal?


My (Mrs Londonfa’s) answers:
1. Erm not really either. Natural I guess would be the beat answer. The security of being able to let go and the desire it brings from my husband and the fact it feels emancipating from my job and childhood sort of makes it a psychological want/need. There is definitely a sexual element in that to an extent as well.
2. Deliberate is only 42kg but thats about half of my gain.
3. We’ll see. “When I’m done I’m done” its like having a good meal: you’re full when your mind and body say you’re full. I think that will be north of 350 but south of 450 but who knows?!

WRT weight: check the scales.

Re cause: without getting in an MRI consider changes in your diet. I have a friend who in her 20s was low 200s, pear shaped, double belly. She started drinking and really hitting the sugary treats. Visceral fat started increasing and she experienced a shape change without a significant gain.

A rounding belly can be caused by any number of things including but not limited to fat gain. Anything from pregnancy to visceral fat gain to inflamed organs to gastrointestinal bloating to tumours.

As its generally a “shape” that can be related to issues that would often require medical intervention, probably worth seeing your physician/GP especially if you cant think of an obvious cause such as a significant change in diet.

I’m in what is sort of a feederism marriage.

She has put on over 120lbs (if you take her previous normal lows as the start or 137lbs if you take her weight when we first met).

I was always in to larger women but there was something about her that drew us close. I had no idea she has been over 200lbs in her early to mid 20s and had lost near 100lbs in some crazy diet.

Even when she was pescatarian she still enjoyed food and we experimented using strawberries and a blindfold in bed before she got pregnant.

When she quit smoking after our wedding she started to look healthier and went from 48kg to 54kg and started to indulge a little more. She knew my ex and clearly must have known I didn't have an issue with women of a heavier size than her as she’d trawled my FB and seen 2 of my previous partners.

When she got pregnant it was like a switch flipped. Literally we were at the movies one Sunday while we lived in NY and i had gotten myself 2 hotdogs from papaya king to sneak in. I sat down next to her and her nostrils flared and she stared at them and asked if She could try one. Considering she was pescatarian at the time I was shocked. By the time the trailers had finished she had eaten both and asked if I could go to the lobby and get another from there.

From that day she started eating and snacking a lot more.

When she gave birth she asked if her weight and new soft tummy bothered me and I came clean and said I wishes there was more not less.

Dont think she really believed me but she made little effort to stop eating but did go back to Zumba.

After our 2nd son was born she just kept eating and I kept feeding her. During that pregnancy I was buying her whole cheesecakes, profriteroles by the dozen, maceron. We also started using feeding in bed more.

By the time of giving birth she was fully in to it and now loves both eating , being fed and plays with her low hanging tummy all the time.

She is eating healthier though and has really cut back on the american and israeli snacks but adds cream to her coffee etc.

Definitely, even as a feeder, there are a number of times that i haven’t believed the scale. The missus looked a lot smaller than I thought when she first hit 200.

Also she constantly underestimates her underwear size. Twice shes had to go for a fitting and come out shocked.