I'm happy you want to help, that's a good place you're coming from, but that is a very risky post. It would require extreme mental and emotional control over an extremely potent, physically addictive drug. The risks far outweigh the benefits; the chance the person becomes addicted and withers away is much more likely than them being successful at managing this and gaining weight.

It's like suggesting shooting heroine to deal with sleeping problems.

195 lbs was still walk around the block weight for my wife. If you CRAWL around the block you could probably do it in 10-15 minutes. Walking? 5 minutes?

Last time we did that, at 215 lbs, that was a 20-30 minute walk, including a break to rest for the endevaor.

Inside, she's completely sedentary, only getting up to go from the bed to a chair or to the toilet. But that's partly also because I prevent any physical activity. I do the groceries, the household, the cooking, the serving of food, everything. "No, stay, I'll do it...you deserve it", with the funny thing being THAT she actually feels as if she did a lot and needs a moment to sit.

Helps me keep her at a steady weight even though she's slowed down her food intake

www.livestrong.com/article/177678-the-side-effects-of-fenugreek-on-the-appetite/

I can't say my wife has been dumbed down by having been fattened up again, but her whole attitude has certainly changed.

She's so used to not making her own food, getting her own drinks, fetching her own things, that she asks for everything now. "Can I have a sandwich?", "I'm hungry....what can I eat?"

By doing everything for her I'm instilling a form of learned helplessness in her, and it suits her very well.

Sure is nice, what you describe.

But it's also a delicacy when she doesn't fully like it but has to be fat(ter) anyway because she can't do anything else but gain. There's a lot of pleasure in that too

Make it an open subject of talk. Explore the subject with her, her feelings about it, her fears, her shames. Work on it.

There is a huge gap between emotions and what we think about them. Intellectually we can decide "this doesn't mater" but our feelings can still stand in the way. Talking it through helps uncover the often irrational logic of those feelings.

I've gained as well over time but my primary interest is in transforming her. As you say; "weight gain transforms someone in a fascinating way"

I get the same body modification kick out of making her really fat (well, obese now) as other men do when they want their wife to have really big implants, or bimbofy them by getting lots of lip filler.

I use it extensively while growing my wife. After her 250 to 185 lbs weight loss I used it to track her bumping back up to her current 215 lbs. Very useful.

Nice find. Thanks

I have my feedee at 45% body fat. She's been at 55% when she was heavier, when she was 239 lbs.

Ideally I like to have her over 50%. It's just a turn on to know half her body is just fat