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C4bl3fl4m3
6 days
If you want people to reply to your messages, make sure you give them enough information about yourself for them to determine whether or not they’re interested in you enough to put forth the emotional labor of replying and answering questions.
It’s so blatantly obvious how many folks on here have *no idea* how to have a conversation. How many folks expect you to do all the heavy lifting, to ask all the questions, or to write all the answers. Yes, ask the other person about themselves, but don’t JUST do that. Give information about you too so they can tell if they’re interested to keep things going. Don’t make them work to get information from you, or to have a conversation with you.
It’s so blatantly obvious how many folks on here have *no idea* how to have a conversation. How many folks expect you to do all the heavy lifting, to ask all the questions, or to write all the answers. Yes, ask the other person about themselves, but don’t JUST do that. Give information about you too so they can tell if they’re interested to keep things going. Don’t make them work to get information from you, or to have a conversation with you.
C4bl3fl4m3
4 months
Repping that FAT luvv at Pride! (FWIW, fat gals & enbies are also hot, too. ;) )
Newport News VA USA, May 30th 2026
C4bl3fl4m3
5 months
I tried to recreate my profile pic all these years later because I wanted to update it. Sadly, no matter how many shots I took, I couldn’t quite get one I liked as much. I’ll have to try again sometime. This one’s not half bad though. :)
C4bl3fl4m3
6 months
Virtual event: feedists for fat liberation’s may 2026 arts and crafts hangout
As I stated in the post, I am not the organizer nor affiliated with this in any way so all questions must be directed to the group and not on here.
That being said, since there are small fee...
That being said, since there are small fee...
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C4bl3fl4m3
6 months
Virtual event: feedists for fat liberation’s may 2026 arts and crafts hangout
Please join Feedists for Fat Liberation’s (Monthly) Arts and Crafts Hangouts in 2026!
When? Sunday May 3, 2026 2:00 p.m. PDT, 5:00 p.m. EDT, and 10:00 p.m. GMT
These informal events are t...
When? Sunday May 3, 2026 2:00 p.m. PDT, 5:00 p.m. EDT, and 10:00 p.m. GMT
These informal events are t...
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C4bl3fl4m3
7 months
Pittsburgh feedism & fat admiration munch - april 28th 2026!
This is awesome! I hope you get a lot of people! Good luck and let us know how it goes! 
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C4bl3fl4m3
1 year
Saw this at Target in 2014, took a pic of it. It remains as true today as it was then. :)
C4bl3fl4m3
1 year
Interest in virtual fa/wg community meetups?
Hey folks, I'm trying to gauge interest in online community meetups. I'm thinking 1x a month but if they get popular we could go to 2x a month or even every other week. (Possibly do a casual social...
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C4bl3fl4m3
2 years
Story behind your username?
I put my given name into a "random hax0r name generator" back in the early 2000s. C@bl3Fl@m3 came out. I changed it to the more internet friendly C4bl3Fl4m3 and have used it ever since. It's pretty...
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C4bl3fl4m3
2 years
Central pennsylvania
I visit Cumberland County a few times a year (I grew up there), usually for a week or longer, and would love to meet up with like-minded folks.
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C4bl3fl4m3
2 years
Southeast virginia?
Replying again to see if we can revive this thread and get something going. Esp. with weather getting nice we can have picnics outside.
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C4bl3fl4m3
2 years
Anyone in pa?
I grew up outside of Harrisburg and go up a couple of times a year, usually for at least a week. I'm always down for meeting up with folks (in COVID-cautious manners) when I'm there.
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