I know for me at least, I wouldn't feel right having a significant other getting fat if they weren't enthusiastically into it.

I'd love to have a fat partner, but it would kill the enjoyment for me if she wound up hating herself or resenting the kink. I'd rather her be skinny and happy with herself than fat and miserable. (Though obviously fat and happy is best scenario.)

At the end of the day, you're the one that has to live with the weight and your body. I don't know how long your relationship has been, or what kinds of milestones you've been through, but it'd be good I think to talk with him honestly about the reservations you've been having.

Absolutely same. I do like the nurturing kind of "I want you to look like me, you'll look so cute angle."

But at the same time, I also like the "I'm not having a skinny boyfriend/husband. I'm fattening you up as long as you're with me" angle, though that one is a lot more rooted in fantasy.

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Oh, for sure! I remember The Simpsons episode where their version of Arnold S. comes to town to administer youth fitness tests and slaps fat stickers on all the kids’ bellies. 👌🏻[/quote]

Shall I say, Passion Patties?

I mean, tangentially related, I also grew up with cartoons that for some reason, there was at least one episode where someone got fat, or in some way shape or form, weight gain was a big part of the episode. That certainly helped contribute too.

At 4 years old, Willy Wonka & The Chocolate Factory introduced me to the concept that people can grow and it was a long standing fascination that turned into a preference when I got older.

Though I do prefer soft doughy and squishy to, you know, perfectly spherical... and blue.

Obviously this is going to be a "your mileage may vary" kind of thing. It's been kinda difficult to influence my weight in either direction, but at the same time, I do kinda eat what I want. I exercise regularly but my weight still hovers where it's been after I'm off my gainer kicks. I used to be 125 when I found this site and I'm 155 now. Been this weight for over a year.

If you do lose weight, you also have to consider that you've made fat cells that aren't going to go away, and slipping back into old habits are going to put the weight back on you easily.

Browsing some of the "how big do you hope to be threads" I've seen people post that got pretty huge from all different starting points. I'm sure there have been quite a few on this site.

You've had quite the rollercoaster so far, but hopefully your indulging gets you where you want to be! I can definitely relate to having fat-hating folks, but I'm glad you've got the drive to make things happen for yourself.

You're going to blow up pretty quickly at least up to your old peak weight, maybe a few more pounds after, thanks to the whole yo-yo dieting effect.

Welcome to the site, and I wish you best of luck on your journey!

That's really awesome to hear! I'm happy you were able to help him be honest with himself!

I can find beauty in skinnier girls, but definitely my preference lies in fat. Ideally, I think I'd be pretty happy with a woman that's 300-400lbs. I think highest I'd consider would be 500.

That said, a few things can torpedo this. First and foremost, I'd rather her not be miserable or regretting that she's big. I'd much rather date a woman that's happy and skinny than miserable that she's fat. If that's the case, definitely would help her lose weight. Secondly, I still want to do things with her, so I'm fine with walking slow so she can keep up, but I'd rather not have her immobile. Health issues don't do it for me either, so I'd help her lose weight to mitigate that as well.

I'm pretty sure a woman wouldn't get to 500lbs without tripping the other caveats, hell, I think I'd be hard pressed to find someone in the 300s without some health issues.