I know someone who was skinny throughout her high school and collage years, and only started to plump up afterwards, from about 120 lbs to 160 lbs, slowly, over several years, and she realized it only at about 150 lbs, because she kept experimenting with new clothing styles, she now had a job and could afford new clothes, and she also gained mostly on her hips and butt, especially initially... so it was a shocking realization for her that she did gain weight, and that it was more than just a couple of pounds.
2 years
For those who are in the extra big sizes, it can be common to have trouble finding chairs with arms which can contain you, or even passing through narrower doorways or fitting into booths.
For those who are big enough that your size requires you to plan around it, what were the very first limitations you encountered?
2 years
SlavicChubster:
I actually lost weight while working in a fast food restaurant. It was like intense workout for the entire shift, even cheap staff meals didn't help.
Totally voting for remote office job, gained solid 25 pounds.
It sucks when you have to be on the phone all the time tho, no food for you. Luckily I got promoted and could slack'n'snack.
It's so rare to see someone from Eastern Europe who was fat, has gotten even fatter, likes it and wants to keep going. Indeed, as you said, feeder culture seems dead in this region.
2 years
Just weight alone wouldn't be all that useful, because there are differences in both height and build, which would make someone super-obese and someone else merely plump, at the same weight.
What your body can do and where it can or cannot fit, would be a better criteria.
So, I would say it's where one starts getting bigger than most things are designed for. Chairs, cars, seats, booths becoming too small to fit into comfortably (or at all). Certain body positions and movements starts becoming very difficult or impossible (tying shoelaces, walking up more than a single flight of stairs without having to stop, etc.). The threshold would be when going through narrow doorways, fitting inside small cars and behind restaurant booths is still possible, but only with great difficulties. Where every physical activity is still possible, even if only for very short periods of time. A size which starts seriously affecting what one can or cannot do, but still not as big to make most activities impossible.
2 years
FatLover91:
It would be a horrible thing if she lost weight. It’s so amazing that she’s over 700lbs at just 23 years old. It would be extremely tragic if she lost any weight. She could easily be 900lbs by the time she’s 30 if she keeps going.
No, what would really be horrible is if she died at such a young age! If she needs to drop a little weight to stay healthy, than that should matter more than the fantasies and expectation of (to her) random strangers.
3 years
Strangely, most of my hobbies are quite active, and so the ratio of fatties is much smaller there than in the average population. As a FA this makes me happen across much less fat people than I otherwise would.
This made me think about what kinds of hobbies or activities are there, where the ratio of overweight attendees is really high?
Would be fun to see others' personal experiences.
3 years
John Smith:
She has to be IMMENSELY fat to get her belly touching the steering wheel. Like Tessholliday-esque or Krissyteigen-escly fat.
You missed that I mentioned that she's very short, so she has to pull the seat forward for her legs to reach the pedals comfortably.
3 years
I know a woman who is quite tubby but not really all that fat. But she is short, and her belly almost touches the steering wheel. She can't push her seat back because then her legs won't reach the pedals, so she has to keep the seat quite far in the front, making very little room for her belly.
3 years
John Smith:
You can be anything but transphobe and still be realistic about gender reassignment therapy being as much a life-altering choice to weigh in the same way any morbid feedist with some consciouness would, and being vocal about not encouraging this to minors given how reportedly deadlier it has proven to be for them.
Indeed! The word phobia means an intense uncontrollable fear or hatred, but people are diluting it too much these days, using it on anyone who shows a mild dislike, or polite criticism, or even just unwillingness to show open support.
3 years
Jiggle Junkie:
What is a massive skew—and has nothing to do with fat attraction—is supply and demand of men vs. women, esp. in a heteronormative context. Not only are behaviors different, as mentioned by becomingoverweight, western societies define and judge women by attractiveness and sex appeal, and value them highly as sex objects. Show up to an online community as a woman and watch your message box blow up, just by existing. With that kind of stifling pressure, is it any wonder that women take breaks/back away/walk away from individual online interactions?
That isn't just "western societies", it's human nature. (and if you go by the norms of western society, it's actually actively discouraged - even though many people still do it)
Don't forget that we as a species spent may orders of magnitude more time as hunter-gatherer tribes than in modern urbanized civilization. For women, pregnancy was a much bigger hurdle and more risky then than now, so women had to choose very carefully who they trust, while men could more easily move on. Also it's no wonder that in this scene most men are feeders and most women are feedees. Men had to go out to hunt, and provide for the women who stayed home, being pregnant during most of their lives, due to high child mortality. Of course there are exceptions with both genders, but there is a general trend deeply rooted in our species, which no social trends can fully eliminate.
3 years
