Also great for diabetics--just make 'em with fake sugar. Still lots of calories. You can also mix in choc chips OR stick a piece of choc in the center when they're halfway done.

A wonderful feeder chef who used to be here taught me those. Miss him.

Totally with you about the ass kicking.

As for "Fat Bottomed Girls", I thought it was pure genius. She owns him about it, so that he gets told in no uncertain terms that it *wasn't* flattering. It was one of my favourite moments of the episode.

I'm holding my breath, but loving it so far.

You need to face your fears as you would any other. How did your Dad tell you to face your fear of bicycles after you fell off one? Get back on. How do you cure your fear of diving in the deep end of the pool? By diving in. Just. Do. It.

In the meantime, however, and I mean this absolutely sincerely: you should stop dating. You have no right to hurt people while you're trying to get man enough to date the women who turn you on. Talk to a therapist, or take some valium before you take your date home, or whatever you need to do to get over yourself. But until then, stop doing damage to the kind, thoughtful people around you who have no idea how very thoughtless you are when you're dating them. I know that sounds harsh, but you are hurting real people with real feelings. Stop it.

Figure the problem out. THEN date. Simple.

Elevator/lift only for me.

Cynical is right. If you PM RubyRipples, the person will be banned as soon as she logs on.

Sweetie, you're SO young. I know you don't feel it, but 20 is such early days. The world stops looking like high school by the time you're 30, and hopefully quite a bit before that. The cliques drop away. All of that changes.

And nice guys don't always get ignored. I married one, and we've been together for 24 years. I know lots of nice guys with partners they think are hot. Kind, thoughtful, supportive men end up partnered.

It is, however, true that self-pity is unattractive, *even when you've earned it*. I'm not commenting on whether or not you have the right to feel as you do, or whether or not I would feel as you do in your shoes. It's simply not the point. You can ask what you can do to make yourself more appealing (though it's dangerous, because you have to be willing to take the hits), but it's never a good idea to say 'It really sucks being someone like me because nobody likes us.' Just doesn't work.

If you look at your dating ad, for example, it talks about having been burned. Bad plan--no doubt true, but not a good sell. The section on your ideal match starts out with 'Not here seeking, not here against the idea.' Definitely not inspiring.

Your original question was if nice guys have any use. My answer? Yes, *including* in bed, but across all of life. In your second post, you say you aren't really a 'nice' guy, you've just developed that style through circumstances. Well, maybe it's time to peel away those habits and find out who you are. Then be him, and see how he works out for you.

The problem, as I see it, is that these things only pretend to be logical. In fact, as SuperFelix points out, we're unlikely to charge athletes more, though their training means injuries which means costs. These ideas are about punishing people who don't fall in line--smokers and fatties, in the current case. You'll notice, for instance, that we're not charging people who drink a few pints a few nights a week...

This seems to me another example of why we need a 'civil rights' type movement for fat people. Unfortunately, the people who have nominated themselves to lead that movement don't think it should include us, and (maybe relatedly?) we don't seem to participate much in it.

Ah, and now a Big Fat Blog entry on the show: www.bigfatblog.com/

There are the usual presumptions: that fat people are fat because we eat vast amounts of junk food, that we don't care about our health, etc. But the question of whether or not we should be 'punished'--for example, by making us pay for health care that's free to others--is one we really need to be thinking and talking about, because it's coming soon to a health care provider near you...

There was a talk show here on this topic, and it's now on youtube:


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I'd love to hear people talk about this issue. It's not unlike the airline one--which gets mentioned early on--but in this case it has to do with public resources.

Any thoughts?

Did anyone watch Super Duper Sumos, by any chance? The clips on youtube are the worst quality imaginable. Looks like it wasn't exactly genius television, but they overeat for strength, are hugely fat, and it was renewed for a second season.