Have any of you attempted to gain weight and then suddenly get freaked out after realizing that you're actually getting really fat. This question was born out of a personal experience.
4 years
Louiefat:
I've openly dated both skinny girls and fat girls. A lot more fat girls than skinny girls, but, enough to experience the grand canyon divide between how people treat you when you're dating a fat girl vs a skinny girl. Dating a skinny girl, even if she's a piece of shit, is like going in for a job interview when your dad is the CEO, only everyone you meet is the interviewer. People fucking love you when you date a skinny girl. Dating a fat girl is like being that person who has 4 advanced degrees and 20 years of experience, only to be passed up for the CEO's son because the interviewer thinks people with facial hair are Muslim terrorists and you might be a pedophile and he already got the job anyway.
I still prefer dating fat women, but god damn it, does it get exhausting sometimes dealing with OTHER PEOPLE. Fuck society yo. My girlfriend's mom has literally called me a mentally ill goblin deviant for being attracted to her daughter.
I'm sorry to hear that. Life is complicated for sure.
4 years
Ditzy:
Yes and especially by my eventually ex husband and my Mother.
My mother is a great lady. However, she always makes it a point to let me know when I have gained weight.
4 years
I've been considered short and thin all of my life. When I hit 40, my metabolism slowed down and I plumped up quickly. I recieved a mixture of reactions. Some were VERY friendly with me while others just looked at me seeming to be less responsive than when I was smaller. I'm 5'3, making every pound count. For those of you who started small and became overweight, did you receive different reactions after the weight gain?
4 years
MissRohi:
Been where you guys are, and can say that once I stopped hiding the size and roundness of my belly, I felt liberated!
jellygirl:
Yes! That is how I think about it. Earlier this year as my gaining was becoming more noticeable, I found myself subconsciously trying to hold my belly in. I reasoned that if my goal was to become very fat, then trying to minimize how fat I looked made no sense.
Now I try to be mindful of the tension in my belly and remember to relax and be proud of my appearance because this is me and I like the way I look.
And regardless of what others think, it isn't any of their business. It is up to each of us to assess the value of any decision.
4 years
I certainly can relate to the embarrassment. Being a very short guy, I'm hit with a double whammy with each pound. I seem to embody two forms in which people discriminate. I'm not just a short guy, I'm a short and fat guy. I happen to be very good looking so that helps. Although,
I could succeed either way.However, in one way, this is a blessing in that I can know the genuine people from the clowns.
4 years
I don't know that I've felt this way. I just tend to feel shorter the fatter I get.
4 years
wanttobefat600:
I have struggled so much with these feelings its not even funny. My parents were health nuts growing up and didn't allow me to overindulge in unhealthy foods and not exercise like I wanted to so getting fat as a kid was definitely not an option. When I first got out on my own, I wanted to explore my desires, however I met my ex and the mother of my child. While she was morbidly obese herself, she hated it and when I brought up the idea that I wanted to be fat myself, she was surprised anyone would choose to make themselves fat because she hated herself so much because of her weight, and she told me she would not like me and would be embarrassed to be seen with me if I became obese. This definitely set me back big time psychologically, as even the person I loved the most would hate me just for being fat and wanting to not hate my body. I am just now starting to overcome the depression and self consciousness this caused, and realizing that I deserve to love my body and not care what people think about me being obese because its my body and I deserve to be happy. Its the best feeling to binge out on junk food now knowing that I'm going to be super obese and happy and no one can tell me different
It seems as though some overweight people discriminate against other overweight people. We often dislike others who exhibit what we're ashamed of in ourselves. It's very unfortunate.
4 years
deltajim:
Yeah, that makes sense. It seems like height also plays a role in weight distribution.
I'm 5' 11" and broad-shouldered, so I had to put on lot of weight before it started to become noticeable. There are a lot of places for the weight to go, so it makes sense that my distribution was more "all around" than in just the belly.
If you're on the other end of the height spectrum, every pound will be more noticeable (which can be an advantage since you don't have to work as hard to get pronounced effects). Sometimes I wish I was shorter for this reason, but I guess the weight will come on eventually.
You're right. Every pound is noticeable on me. People have light heartily joked about how I've obviously been eating lately. Although being short and fat for a guy is a different experience.
4 years
MissRohi:
Been where you guys are, and can say that once I stopped hiding the size and roundness of my belly, I felt liberated!
I agree. I feel liberated. I'm certainly getting used to being more authentic in this context. I've learned a lot this week from doing this. People have responded positively towards me and I often wonder if they sense that I'm self conscious or if I've been able to hide that well
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