WideJuan76:
When stairs started to become an issue and growing a belly apron will make you contemplate that I might have gone to the point of no return
I can imagine. It's hard to anticipate the consequences both good and bad.
4 years
What is your favorite memory of being teased about your weight?
Mine was when I was in college and I ran up a flight of stairs so as to not be late for class, and a classmate said " You're out of shape" as I sat in my chair breathing heavily.
4 years
I can relate to certain aspects of what all of you have said. On one hand, you think that you will like it and then realize that you have gone far enough to where people at least notice that you are not slim. I can literally see people staring at my stomach. It is a bit of a struggle as one part of me likes the change but it changes the game dramatically. I don't know if I like the embarrassing part of being fat.
4 years
Of course this is only fantasy:: And since I'm short this seems uncomfortably possible. Mine is to look very round as emphasized by my stature. Unfortunately it wouldn't take but about 30 to 50 more pounds to get there.
4 years
Have any of you attempted to gain weight and then suddenly get freaked out after realizing that you're actually getting really fat. This question was born out of a personal experience.
4 years
Louiefat:
I've openly dated both skinny girls and fat girls. A lot more fat girls than skinny girls, but, enough to experience the grand canyon divide between how people treat you when you're dating a fat girl vs a skinny girl. Dating a skinny girl, even if she's a piece of shit, is like going in for a job interview when your dad is the CEO, only everyone you meet is the interviewer. People fucking love you when you date a skinny girl. Dating a fat girl is like being that person who has 4 advanced degrees and 20 years of experience, only to be passed up for the CEO's son because the interviewer thinks people with facial hair are Muslim terrorists and you might be a pedophile and he already got the job anyway.
I still prefer dating fat women, but god damn it, does it get exhausting sometimes dealing with OTHER PEOPLE. Fuck society yo. My girlfriend's mom has literally called me a mentally ill goblin deviant for being attracted to her daughter.
I'm sorry to hear that. Life is complicated for sure.
5 years
Ditzy:
Yes and especially by my eventually ex husband and my Mother.
My mother is a great lady. However, she always makes it a point to let me know when I have gained weight.
5 years
I've been considered short and thin all of my life. When I hit 40, my metabolism slowed down and I plumped up quickly. I recieved a mixture of reactions. Some were VERY friendly with me while others just looked at me seeming to be less responsive than when I was smaller. I'm 5'3, making every pound count. For those of you who started small and became overweight, did you receive different reactions after the weight gain?
5 years
MissRohi:
Been where you guys are, and can say that once I stopped hiding the size and roundness of my belly, I felt liberated!
jellygirl:
Yes! That is how I think about it. Earlier this year as my gaining was becoming more noticeable, I found myself subconsciously trying to hold my belly in. I reasoned that if my goal was to become very fat, then trying to minimize how fat I looked made no sense.
Now I try to be mindful of the tension in my belly and remember to relax and be proud of my appearance because this is me and I like the way I look.
And regardless of what others think, it isn't any of their business. It is up to each of us to assess the value of any decision.
5 years
I certainly can relate to the embarrassment. Being a very short guy, I'm hit with a double whammy with each pound. I seem to embody two forms in which people discriminate. I'm not just a short guy, I'm a short and fat guy. I happen to be very good looking so that helps. Although,
I could succeed either way.However, in one way, this is a blessing in that I can know the genuine people from the clowns.
5 years
