My wife isn't into it at all, but she's happy she gets to be a fatty and eat what she wants and not worry about dieting. She even gained a little weight on purpose for me, despite being pretty big already. I do have to temper the fat talk though.

Also, she isn't into me getting fat per se, but she doesn't mind that I am, and even encourages me when she notices me skipping meals.

Didn't he get insane heart burn/reflex from this volume of cream, even spaced out? How did he deal with it? I find if I drink even half that it's terrible

I started rubbing vaseline up there when I go out, and it helps a lot. That combined with boxer briefs has been magic combo for me.

I understand where he is coming from, I hated it when my wife dieted down for our wedding, but agree with the above that he needs help. He's having obsessive thoughts, and a good therapist should be able to help with that, maybe CBT or something. His desires will be there for life, nothing that can be changed there, but this anxiety being caused by them is something that good therapy should be able to address

One thing to think about though is even if his anxiety and obsessive thoughts get under control, his sexuality is still going to be wired to wanting to see you gain weight. If you don't want to, then that could be an issue longer term if he is feeling constantly sexually unsatisfied. Not sure what to suggest here. Some people report finding role play to he enough for them, but I know for myself that doesn't do much.
One pretty out there suggestion, which may not be relevant to him at all, but I guess is worth throwing out there, is that it's actually very common for male feeders to have feedee tendencies too aka the desire to be fattened by a partner themselves. If he is also into that and you don't mind him gaining weight, you could ask him if that would scratch his weight gain itch if you're not going to get fat. Would be worth asking him as long as you're ok with it.
I know for myself, I definitely prefer my wife being fat, but now that I'm gaining myself I care far less when she loses some weight here and there

100%. I'm further along the road than you, but still working on it. I also came from a very fatphobic family and country in general. Now in north america its less intense. Definitely get what you're saying about reflexively making jokes and stuff. It was strange bringing home my now-wife to meet my family for the first time, having made such comments in the past and now here I am with a fatty.

I found it easier to get over female fat phobia as I'm into girls, so that is just what is attractive and looks better to me. However, despite wanting to get fat myself as a man, it's been much harder to get over it for men and myself. One thing that has helped is to realize that most people don't actually care. They may not view it as attractive, but otherwise for the most part don't give it much thought. Also, people talk about how it affects things like your career, but it's helpful to see that several of the top executives at my company are massive, and people genuinely respect them, so it really doesn't have to hold you back in life if you've got your life in order ( unless you're talking really high numbers).

I get the same thing, you just gotta eat less at once. For me the limit is about 175ml, maybe 200ml before I get bad effects. You just need to find what amount you can handle and not go over that. It's better to drink smaller amounts you can handle multiple times per day, than all at once.

It's a difficult conversation for sure, but worth having. I recently told my wife and she was very accepting and is now encouraging me.
Also, be prepared to compromise. Maybe she will be happy for you to get fat, but 400lbs is a lot, and comes with health risks etc... There may be some middle ground that makes both of you happy if going all the way makes her uncomfortable.

Hey everyone,

Want to get into this with my wife. She doesn't have this kink, but is open to trying it, and has learned to be comfortable with being fat.

Any tips or experiences in easing non-feedees into it? So far my thoughts are to get her favourite foods, but only start the feeding part of it after some foreplay and we are horny already, so that it is not too awkward.

Especially, any advice on dirty talk during? Like I say, she's not a feedee herself, so I would rather take things along a track she can get into too the first time.

I know exactly how you feel. My so once lost about 20 pounds and I felt like my insides were being twisted inside out. It doesn't help that you know it's an irrational response, and you truly just want to support them in what will make them happy and be best for them. In my case she gained it all back and more very quickly so it wasn't a big deal, but if it happened again I would need to find some way to deal with it.

You could try looking into seeing if a psychotherapist or even clinical hypnotherapist could help. You probably would need to try a few things to find something that helps, given how deeply this is engrained in us.
Many feeders also have latent feedee tendencies too. If this happens to be the case for you, then you could also explore a switching of roles to scratch that itch, if he's open to it.

Every year pornhub posts stats about usage and popularity of categories etc... Over the past year. You could take a look at that for some insights into the relative popularity of bbws, amongst other things.