i am an aficionado of beer, and it definitely has helped me gain. i try not to overdo it, but it happens occasionally. a couple of beers each night will help put a couple pounds on you, but you won't "blow up," you'd need to consume a lot more beer (or cream - blech!) to gain substantially.

probably not the healthiest strategy, if that's your goal. i drink it because i enjoy it. i do find that when i drink alcohol i tend to eat more, too, which is the bigger impact, i think.

eat dinner. go out to the bar. drink. eat bar food (nachos are a staple). drink more. go home, get burgers on the way home. sleep.

happy birthday fantasy feeder!

i think this is the only resource from that era that is active and still going strong, so well done! dimensions (my first entry point into the community) is still around, but it is a shadow of its former self. whereas ff has grown and added features and improvements it seems dims has retreated into just a piece of forum software.

here's to another 20 years!

my partner (amazingem) found me on wooplus, though that was a couple of years ago now. the good news is we're still together!

i was really fit, maybe 150 lbs, and i knew i was getting fat when i started to see my belly sticking out, all soft... and then i was replacing my pants with a 32" waist with 34"... then 36"... then 40"... and when i stepped on the scale as saw i had passed 200 lbs, i felt like such a fatty!

the shock was so much that my initial reaction was "wow, i have to lose weight!" of course, when i tried, i failed... and i tried and failed one more time when i'd put on another 40 lbs!

now, over 400 lbs, clearly i have accepted my blubber.

ok, so you told your therapist you are unhappy if you exercise and eat well and you suffer from depression as a result. your therapist said, fine, do what makes you happy. now you're upset that your therapist isn't forcing you to eat better and exercise? do you hear the mixed messages you are sending?

it sounds like you want to be "cured" of this fat fetish, so i suggest if you want therapy to be useful, you should talk to them about that. talk about what attracts you to it and why that makes you unhappy.

the drug addict comparison is way off base. being fat is not the same as being a drug addict.

here is another short animated thing from saturday morning tv that has inspired a lot of wg fiction stories, too:

probably my ex-gf. she was about 450 lbs at that time, i was 150 or 160... she gained weight while we were together, but then started to lose.

the funny thing is now, all these years later, i am nearly as big as she was... and she is probably down to 200 lbs now!

i feel this.

i love my lifestyle, i love my sex life, and i am completely happy being a big, fat guy... but honestly i am surprised when i step on the scale that i am still getting heavier. i am getting close to 450 lbs, and while that has an element of excitement to it, being over 400 definitely has added additional struggles that i don't necessarily want to make any more challenging.

food and beer are just so damn good, though!

before i got fat, i had dated fat people and took on the role of feeder in most of my relationships. when you are with fat and growing people over the course of 20+ years, you don't really have to tell people. to most friends and acquaintances they didn't know the kink aspect, but they knew i preferred bigger, fatter partners.
the kink aspect, to me, is personal. it's like, do you casually talk to people about their interest in bondage, or anal sex? i hope not, because for the most part they aren't interested in that and probably don't want to know! that is what these communities are for - we have a shared interest.

i have written about this in previous threads, so i won't repeat it all... but there was a real moment of "no return" for me, too.

i had taken a conscious break from exercise and restraint, and was enjoying a life of excess with my girlfriend at that time. i was around 150 or 160 when we'd met, and i thought i would let myself get up to 200 and then lose the weight...

well, i overshot the mark a little, getting up to about 220 before going back to the gym. that lasted a few weeks, and i was over 250 by the time i decided i *really* had to do something!

but by then i was just so embarrassed being in the gym... i could only last a few minutes on the treadmill, my gut bouncing all the time... and i was humiliated by how light the weights were that i could lift! i could barely do a push-up, and i couldn't even do a single sit-up!

so i hit that point psychologically them. now, almost 200 lbs heavier, i am pretty resigned to being fat, the point of no return is so long past!