For question 2, definitely look into bidet attachments for your home toilet(s)! I've seen grabby sticks on Ample Stuff to hold toilet paper or a cloth for drying off. For traveling, maybe a squirt bottle like what women who just gave birth use. I believe it's called a peri bottle.

I know 'exercise' is a dirty word here, but gentle yoga doesn't burn a lot of calories and with regular practice it will increase your flexibility to reach those difficult places.

Oh! For showering, you NEED a detachable shower head. Or a combo setup where you have both a regular shower head and a wand thingy. Honestly I think everyone, fat or thin, can benefit from these. It's so much easier to get every nook and cranny completely clean this way!

I'm probably the exception among women in that I like short partners. I want to be bigger than my lover, not just in weight but in height as well. Large and in charge!

Now, height isn't a dealbreaker for me. I'd happily accept a tall FA or feeder who otherwise fit well with me. But ideally I would like a lover who is noticeably shorter and thinner than me.

Nope. But to be fair, I moved to a different state this summer and I'm still forming a social network. Plus I want to try and get some health problems sorted out before I seriously start looking.

Slow and steady is how I gain. This way my muscles have time to adjust to an increased load, and I have time to save up for new clothes. Most years I go up one pants size. So I don't drink heavy cream or weight gain shakes. I just eat meals as big as I can manage, with regular snacking, and make sure I get some nutritious foods along with the delicious fattening foods.

I love swimming! Always have. These days I float effortlessly, no matter what position I'm in. But I've packed on 202 pounds of pure fat in my years of eating with reckless abandon, so it's no wonder I float!

Seeing myself in a swimsuit is pretty great too. Right now I have a tankini, but I think my next swimsuit will be a bikini. My hips have blown up a lot faster and fatter than my torso, so the tankini top is always riding up. The bust fits, but the lower part around my belly and hips is too small.

Feedism, either me as feedee and lover as feeder or mutual gaining

Tight clothes, especially popping buttons/bursting seams

Being dominant but not causing pain; basically ordering my sub around and having them serve me

Being fed by hand

Squashing

Size difference with me as the bigger one

Belly rubs, especially after a huge meal

A good Indian lunch buffet! I'll happily stuff myself dangerously full with all those tempting flavors and textures.

Since I moved to a rural area, though, I need to give cooking my own Indian dishes another try. Somehow I always end up burning the spices when I try to toast them. And I'll probably make roti instead of naan, because roti are way easier.

For a long time my fat mainly went to my thighs and hips with some on my butt (no round butt shelf, alas) and a comparatively modest belly. Since I hit 300, though, I've finally grown the flabby hanging belly I always wanted! I also grew a good sized double chin, chubby cheeks, big soft upper arms, and even a bit of pudge on my hands and feet.

My thighs and hips continue to grow along with the rest of me and are still my fattest areas.

My sister is 5'3" and about 115 pounds. I'm 5'8" and 353 pounds! I'm obviously quite fat now, but even when I was thin I was much larger than her. I take after Dad in my build, she takes after Mom.

I've always preferred written erotica to videos and pictures. Getting inside the character's head and reading about how much they love getting fat, watching someone else get fat, and/or helping someone else get fat is amazing.