You do understand she is a whole person and not your personal doll to dress? Like seriously, this isn't that hard. "[wife's name], I just wanted to share how much your current hairstyle really suits you! What are your thoughts about it? Have you thought about any other styles in the future? Would you be open to suggestions or ideas I have?"

Instead of manipulating your partners, fucking talk to them and ask them things. It's not that hard.

Honestly questions like this overall absolutely nauseate me. Over and over and over again, it's not about "Encouraging" your partner to do anything. It's about seeing them as a WHOLE PERSON with their own feelings and autonomy. And time and time and time again, people here admit with their whole chest that they not only see their spouses and partners as people but have no interest in adjusting that perspective.

If I ever saw a partner of mine make a thread like this, I would not only dump them on the spot, I would ghost them.

I've always wanted to get some berry suits. There are some cool models out there. I've also explored the idea of getting fillable bellies as well, but those are $$$

My interest in it always comes and goes. I am neurodivergent so I will hyperfocus on it sometimes then back off to work on life and health etc. But it's always been there. It's normal for everyone!

to answer your original thread question, it really starts with stuff outside of the community in general. If an individual enters it without respect for themselves or others, and is not held accountable for that, it will permeate.

another thing I was thinking about today, perhaps down the road, is minimum *account* age in order to chat and/or DM. Lots of people constantly re-deleting accounts, going into chat, harassing people, and leaving. can't even be caught before they dip out again. If an account had to be minimum 3-7 days old it could curb that a bit. Wouldn't completely elminiate the problem but would help catch IP evaders and the like also.

Thank you! Appreciate the ocnsideration!

I'd much MUCh rather get a "user would like to private chat" popup like we used to int he old chat.

Block lists can get full. They are created only in order of blockage and can't be sorted. They're a bit unwieldy. Is there any way to either get a way to search/sort the list or for us to see a little "no" icon or something when we encounter a user we've blocked?

So many pics of cake/gray faces it's hard to keep up.

I was not a fan of the rep system BUT I do think getting the verfied badge helps a lot. My karma was actually low because everyone thought I was fake lol.

Something that would be nice instead would be a visible mod point system. like user has previously been banned for harssment/evasion/fake pics or something. no details just "This has hapepend"

Of course hard to implement since so many freakin people delete all the time. But any way to note that I think would be nice.

friend, I believe you are being too hard on yourself. This is literally just a kink. You do not need to "come out" it's not a sexuality. Everyone on the planet has kinks.

Now if you have internalized fatphobia, that's a whole different issue.